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     Conflicts  between/among  people are often rooted  in
unrecognized  and unacknowledged differences between/among
the  people.    It may help to be-intentional about trying
to  identify  the  particular   differences  in particular
situations  of conflict.   Consider the follwing kinds  of
differences which are difficult-to-recognize:


     1.  "Truths"   which  are  "obviously-true",   never-
thought-about  and never questioned ---  by people  on one
side of a conflict ---


              May NOT be "obviously-true"  and are instead 
         tacitly "thought" to be "obviously-false"; never-
         thought-about, never worthy-of-consideration, and 
         are never considered  as being possibly "obvious" 
         to any people anywhere. 

              What is "obviously-TRUE and un-questionable" 
         and never thought about ---  on one side,  may be 
         equally   "obviously-FALSE"   and  equally  never 
         thought about --- on another side. 

              Both that  which  is  "obviously-true"   and 
         "obviously-false" may be "unthinkable"  and exist 
         only in the realm of the unconscious on all sides 
         of a conflict --- without any awareness  of  what 
         "it" is. 

              Those in-conflict cannot address that  which 
         is the root of their conflict --- because on both 
         sides  "it"  is "unthinkable"  and they  are  not 
         aware of "it" in any way. 

              On both sides  there may be a taboo  against 
         bringing  "it"  to consciousness.   All people on 
         all  sides  may  be  playing collusive  games  of 
         mutual self deception about "it";  regardless  of 
         whether  they  assume that "it"   is  "obviously-
         true", or "obviously-false".  (They  may be doing 
         something other than playing such games.) 


     2.  Paradigms,  Procedures,   Rituals,  Technologies,
Ideals,  Values,  Principles,  Commandments,   Laws,  etc.
which are "obviously-valid", never-thought-about and never
questioned by people on one side of a conflict ---


              May NOT be "obviously-VALID" and are instead 
         tacitly  "thought"  to be  "obviously-NOT-VALID"; 
         never-thought-about,   never  worthy-of-consider-
         ation,   and never  considered  as being possibly 
         "obvious" to any people. 

              What    is    "obviously-valid    and    un-
         questionable"  and never thought about --- on one 
         side,  may be equally  "obviously-NOT-valid"  and 
         equally never thought about --- on another side. 

              Both  that  which is "obviously-valid"   and 
         that which is  "obviously-NOT-valid"  ---  may be 
         "unthinkable"  and exist only in the realm of the 
         unconscious  on  all  sides  of  a  conflict  ---
         without anybody being aware of what "it" is. 

              Those in-conflict cannot address that  which 
         is the root of their conflict --- because on both 
         sides it is "unthinkable"  and they are not aware 
         of "it" in any way. 

              On both sides it may be taboo to bring  "it" 
         to consciousness.  All people on all sides may be 
         playing collusive games of mutual self  deception 
         about "it"; regardless of whether they assum that 
         "it"  is obviously-valid, or obviously-NOT-valid. 
         (They may be doing something other  than  playing 
         such games.) 

     3.  Humane-Relationships,  Blessings,   Peace-Making,
Conflict-Resolutions,      Reconciliations,      Forms-of-
Cooperation, Forms-of-Sharing, and True-Sanctuaries  which
are  "Obviously-Impossible  and  Not-Desirable",    never-
thought-about  and never considered by people on one  side
of a conflict ---


              May NOT appear to be "Obviously-IMpossible";
         and  may  instead  appear to  be  be  "Obviously-
         Possible  and   Clearly-Desirable";    taken-for-
         granted;  and never considered as appearing to be
         "Obviously-IMpossible and Not-Desirable",  never-
         thought-about and never considered --- by  people
         on another side of a conflict.

              What   is  "Obviously-IMpossible   and  Not-
         Desirable"   and never thought about ---  on  one
         side,   may be  equally  "Obviously-Possible  and
         Clearly-Desirable" ---  and equally never thought
         about --- on another side.

              Both  that  which  appears to be "Obviously-
         IMpossible  and  Not-Desirable"  and  that  which
         appears to be   "Obviously-Possible  and Clearly-
         Desirable" may be "unthinkable" and exist only in
         the  realm of the unconscious on ALL sides  of  a
         conflict  ---  without any awareness of what "it"
         is.

              Those  in-conflict  may  not be able address
         that  which  is the  root of their  conflict  ---
         because  on both sides  it is  "unthinkable"  and 
         they are not aware of "it" in any way.

              On both sides it may be taboo to bring  "it"
         to consciousness.  All people on all sides may be
         playing collusive games of mutual self  deception
         about "it"; regardless of whether "it" appears to
         be "Obviously-IMpossible  and  Not-Desirable"  or
         "it"    appears  to  be  "Obviously-Possible  and
         Clearly-Desirable".  (They may be doing something
         other than playing such games.)

                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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