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   %BASIC HUMANE NEEDS BEING HELD COMFORTED STROKED 050706
  %CHERISHED SECURE WANTED SAFE SIGNIFICANT SECURED 050706
   %WANTED SAFELY VULNERABLE SIGNIFICANT REMEMBERED 050706
%NOT MET LACK MISS CLING HOLD OWN REPLACE SUBSTITUT 050706
%INCOMPLETE PARTIAL FRAGMENT POLARIZE ALIENATE GODS 050706
%INTIMATES FRIENDS FAMILY EVIL SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS 050706

     There   is  a  Basic-Humane-Need  to  Be-Held,    Be-
Comforted,  Be-Stroked,  Be-Cherished, Feel-Secure,  Feel-
Wanted,  Feel-Safe, Feel-Significant, Be-Significant,  Be-
Remembered, Be-Feeling-Creatures.

     If this Basic-Humane-Need Is-Not-Met we may Cling-To,
Hold-On-To, Own, Stroke, Cherish, Secure, Want-Desperately
and  Seek-Invulnerability in  Desperate-Efforts-To-REPLACE
What-We-LACK with SOME-THING ---  when  we FEEL:  Ignored,
Unwanted, Insecure, Un-Held, Un-Comfortable, Un-Cherished,
Etc.

     When  we feel-out-of-CONTROL over being NOT:  Wanted,
Attended-to, Secure, Held, Cherished, Comforted --- we may
in DESPERATION: Want, Attend-to, Secure, Hold, Comfort, or
Cherish SOMETHING,  ANYTHING,  Which-we-can-CONTROL,  can-
OWN,  can-WANT, can-ATTEND-to, can-SECURE, can-HOLD,  can-
CHERISH,  can-COMFORT In-Compensation-For What-we-Lack  in
Despair-and-Depression.   Wanting-To-Be-In-CONTROL through
Holding-On,   Clinging-To,   Wanting-More,   Attending-To,
Securing, Cherishing, and Acting-Unilaterally --- is often
our  Futile-Ideal-Form-of-Compensation  for what  we  have
Not-Had.

     Inhumane-Indifference is often the Opposite-of-Humane
LOVE --- In-Absence.

     InHumane-Clinging-on-To  is often a Tragic-Substitute
Abused In-Place-Of Absent-LOVE.

     Trying-To-Get-More of  Our-Tragic-Substitute  in  the
Absence-of-Love is a More-Tragic-Substitute, In-Quality as
well  as In-Quantity ---  and IT  Escalates-the-Alienation
from   Healthy-Humane-Relationships  through:    Coercion,
Violence, Abuse,  Unilateral-Actions,  Despair, Depression
and  Mis-Understanding  of  Each-Other in Playing-Games of
Mutual-Self-Deception  Under-Guidance-Of   The-Domination-
System which Motivates-US.

     We  need-to-stop cherishing-substitutes,  and  learn-
how-to-cherish   each-and-every-other   as   humane-beings
within   humane-relationships under-the-humane-guidance-of
and the-humane-motivations-of  the  LOVE  which we miss.

                 Shalom is The-Way, not The-End.

              There is no effective-means to Shalom.

              It is mean to try-to-find such a means.

             All such Mean-Means are Tragically-Futile.

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                               LOVE!

                              Shalom!

                            ************

                          Discover Shalom!

                          Un-Cover Shalom!

                          Stop Covering-Up!

                         Be-Together in LOVE!

                       Let-Go of means to Love!

                      Be-Yourself Within Shalom!

                    Means to LOVE/SHALOM do not work!

                 We cannot-control means-to LOVE/SHALOM!

                                 Shalom!

                                  LOVE!

                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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