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%EXCLUSIVE CLOSED FRIENDSHIPS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP 050614
%SEXUAL INTIMACY FORMAL MARRIAGE CONTRACT ALIENATED 050614
%EXCOMMUNICATE ESTRANGED ENEMY RIGHTS DUTIES HONEST 050614
%RISK VULNERABILITY MANAGEMENT CONTROL ADDICT SLAVE 050614
%BOUGHT SOLD OWNERSHIP BENEFITS COSTS MUTUALITY GOD 050614
 %FORMULA SCRIPT SCRIPTURE CONFORM PROPER RIGHTEOUS 050614

     Domineering  people  are  prone to try  to  form  and
control  exclusive  personal relationships;  e.g.,  as  an
addict with a codependent supporter who is submissive.

     Domineering  people are unlikely to form and maintain
with integrity any  non-exclusive  personal relationships;
e.g., relationships within which  participants are free to
be involved in complementary other  close  friendships and
intimate relationships.   Domineering people are likely to
feel  that they can own their partner in an exclusive way;
to feel that for the partner  to  be involved in any other
close friendship or other intimate relationship ---  is  a
violation of the rights of the domineering person to be in
control; dominant.

     The above indicate that domineering people are likely
to  create  relationships characterized  by:   alienation,
estrangement,  rebellion, anger,  resentment,  dishonesty,
etc.    They  are likely to blame,  shame  and  guilt  any
partner who becomes involved in any relationship which is
complementary to their "Dominant-Relationship".   They may
even  feel  that they have the right to  be  the  dominant
partner  in more than one Exclusive-relationship;  and not
see the lack of integrity in their taking that stand.

     The  above describes many relationships which do  not
entail any formal marriage;  as well as many relationships
which do entail a formal marriage.    People contemplating
marriage will do well to look for signs of incompatibility
in   expectations   before  marriage  ---   because   many
domineering  people  spring the trap  of  domination  only
after  the  formalities of a marriage are in effect.    Be
aware and beware of tripping such a trap!

                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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