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  %HEALTHY INTIMATE PATTERNS SHALOM RELATION EVOLVE 050511
   %DESIRE HOPE RESERVATION OPEN PRIVACY EXCITEMENT 050511
%SPONTANEITY RESTRAINT FREE BOUNDARY6 INITIATE EVIL 050511
%FEAR ANXIETY RESPOND RECEPTIVE MODESTY CONFIDE GOD 050511
%COOPERATE DISCIPLINE MUTUAL CONFORM CREATIVE RULES 050511

     Healthy  intimate patterns within  our  relationships
evolve  in  keeping with indications of  our  desires  for
various kinds and levels of:


     1.  Intimacies,              2.  Reservations,
     3.  Openness,                4.  Privacy,
     5.  Excitement,              6.  Tranquility,
     7.  Spontaneity,             8.  Restraint,
     9.  Freedoms,               10.  Boundaries,
    11.  Initiatives,            12.  Responses,
    13.  Receptivity,            14.  Modesty,
    15.  Confidence,             16.  Hesitancy,
    17.  Cooperation,            18.  Discipline,
    19.  Mutuality,              20.  Conformity,
    21.  Creativity,             21.  Balance.

     Healthy  intimate  patterns  entail   diverse  common
understandings  regarding  rights,  rites and  rituals  as
regards: suggestions, hints, rules, regulations, commands,
judgments, demands, intuitions, confirmations, objections
and other intimately-related transactional-realities.

     Healthy intimate  patterns are not  often:  scripted,
programmed, planned, demanded, dominated or controlled by:

non-participants, external-factors,  computations or other
technocratic-considerations on the part of powerful:

leaders, vested-interests, corporations, religious-groups,
political-groups, investors, capitalists, neighbors, etc.

     Healthy  intimate people do not often  systematically
ignore  the basic human needs and desires of  any  labeled
members  of the community.   Any such pattern of  ignoring
the  basic human needs and desires of any labeled  members
of the community --- is clear-evidence of of the existence
of unhealthy-and-disintegrative  relationships between the
more wealthy and/or powerful members of the community, and
the less wealthy-and/or-powerful members of the community.

     Because  of  existing collusive-games-of-mutual-self-
deception; the existence and/or nature of such  unhealthy-
and-disintegrative  relationships   may  not be  clear  to
anybody  in the community.   Ignorance about them does not
prove that they do not exist.

     Most people do not  know about  the  well established
and  well  described laws-of-physics;  but their ignorance
does  not prove that those descriptive-laws-of-physics  do
not exist in reliably-demonstrable ways.   The laws which
reliably-describe reflexive-humane-relationships exist  in
a  similar way ---  in spite of most people's ignorance-of
them and indifference-toward-them.    The consequences-of-
such-ignorance are often tragic in regards to:

 1.  Dysfunctional reflexive relationships.
 2.  Dysfunctional intimate relationships.
 3.  Dysfunctional sexual relationships.
 4.  Disintegrative sexual diseases, including AIDS.
 5.  Prostitution and the profitable sex-slave-trade.
 6.  Religious-Political Domination-Systems of Control.
 7.  Concentrations of Wealth via Distributive-Injustice.
 8.  Concentrations of Powers via Distributive-Injustice.
 9.  The Evil-Works of The  Military-Industrial-Complexes.
10.  The Evil-Works of The Technocratic-Power-Complexes.
11.  The Evil-Works of Disintegative-Conceptions-of-Evil.
12.  The Evil-Relationships which are never healed.
13.  Corruptions of Fallen:  Powers,  Wealth and  Leaders.
14.  Corruptions of Ignorant-Beneficiaries of the above.
15.  Disintegrations of the Biosphere of Space-Ship-Earth.
16.  Depletions of Fuel-Supplies within  Space-Ship-Earth.
17.  Threats of Nuclear-War-Disintegration of All-Earth.
18.  Threats of Political-Disintegrations  of All-People.
19.  Threats of Religious-Disintegrations  of All-People.
20.  Other Evolving Threats of which we are all ignorant.

                         (c) 2004 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                     (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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