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%DIFFERENT WAYS PEOPLE MAINTAIN BOTH PERSONAL FORMS 041013 %IDEALS VALUES PRINCIPLES COMMUNAL INTEGRITIES BORN 041013 %PERSONAL ACHIEVEMENT SALVATION REDEMPTION RESCUED 041013 %SENSITIVITY SYMPATHY LISTEN DIALOGUE RECONCILERS 041013 %PEACEMAKERS HEALER DISTRIBUTIVE JUSTICE HOSPITIBLE 041013 %DICHOTOMY BIPOLAR ALIENATAION DOMINATION CIVILITY 041013 There are many ways in which people can be and are different from each other --- while maintaining both personal and communal forms of integrities: 1. Weight, height, skin-color. 2. Shapes of eyes, noses, heads. 3. Distributions of body fat. 4. Colors of eyes and hair. 5. Length, amount and distribution of hair. 6 Sensitivities of nose, toung, skin, ears, eyes. 7. Sensitivities to differences among people. 8. Abilities to be cooperative colaborators. 9. Abilities to tolerate unimportant differences. 10. Abilities to form different kinds of relationships. Humane differences cannot be described accurately and honesty --- while restricting ourselves and/or others to only the binary-languages of: yes/no, white/black, good/evil, enemy/friend, right/wrong, acceptable/rejectable, rich/poor, saved/dammed, male/female, child/adult, etc. Spectrums of possibilities are found in all kinds of humane people and humane relationships. It is dishonest and disintegrative to pretend otherwise. Some of the most important differences pertain to how well we cooperate in integrating different individuals, couples, and small-groups into healthy and humane communities that serve as sanctuaries for creative dialogue --- which is open, honest, intimate and healthy as regards the experiences of those who are present; e.g., within Space- Ship-Earth. Many people find it particularly difficult to deal with different people's different: desires, relationships, hopes, aspirations, motivations, fears, plans, etc. How far can tolerance be allowed to go, and we still maintain personal and communal integrations and integrities? How are chaos, disorder, and alienation to be kept in-check? Who is best qualified to keep chaos, disorder and alienation "in-check". What kinds of powers, kings, queens, emperors, dictators, presidents, and other leaders can we trust to lead the way? How important are the following qualities in choosing whom to trust? 1. Certainty? 2. Self-confidence? 3. Strength? 4. Popularity? 5. Wealth? 6. Great unilateral-achievements? 7. Arrogance? 8. Self-righteousness? 9. Management-skills? 10. Pretentiousness? Where do the following qualities rank in importance compared to those above? 1. Liberally educated? 2. Humility? 3. Modesty? 4. Well informed? 5. Intelligence? 6. Effective listener/communicator? 7. Has facilitated wonderful cooperation? 8. Facilitates integrations and integrities? 9. Respects creative differences? 10. Is prudently patient and wise? We have some of the greatest challenges and difficulties when dealing with differences pertaining to: 1. Human sexuality, reproduction, limitations and death. 2. Setting communal priorities about wealth and health. 3. Religious conceptions, myths, cosmologies and beliefs. Space-Ship-Earth is of limited size. There is only limited land, water, air, fuel, raw-material, etc. inside of Space-Ship-Earth, which is isolated in an inhospitable environment all the way around Space-Ship-Earth. Space-Ship-Earth is getting crowded with people and garbage; and the crew has not yet learned how to cooperate with each other in dealing with the unavoidable limitations within Space-Ship-Earth and the impossibility of operating outside of the regularities of descriptive natural objective-physical and spiritual-reflexive laws which govern all relationships. Some of the most difficult and challenging dilemmas we face have to to with how to respond to people who demonstrate the following disintergrative behavioral- characteristics-and-traits. Shall we tolerate the disintegrative behavioral-characteristics-and-traits? How shall we understand, transcend and subvert these behavioral-characteristics-and-traits? Note that the emphasis here is upon these behavioral-characteristics- and-traits; NOT upon the individual people who demonstrate these behavioral-characteristics-and-traits; or upon who is "evil" and who is "good": 1. Arrogance and self-righteousness. 2. Going-it-alone, unilaterally. 3. Dominance, coercion, and violence. 4. Simplistic and uninformed analyses. 5. Alienation, excommunications, exclusivity. 6. Pretentiousness, collusions, secrecy. 7. Group-think, mob-psychology, blind-loyalty. 8. Bias, prejudice, ignorance, being-arbitrary. 9. Concentrations of wealth, power & privilage. 10. Inability to be in dialogue and cooperate. If we choose to copy people who demonstrate the above behavioral-characteristics-and-traits --- in efforts to eliminate them, we fail tragically; no matter how nobel and highly respected our motives may be. Disintegrative means undermine the most nobel and respected of motives in tragic ways which are beyond the understanding of the people who demonstrate the above disintegrative behavioral-charicteristics-and traits. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================