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 %MISUNDERSTAND DIFFERENT ASSUMPTION PURPOSE SAYING 040714
   %PERTAIN JUDGEMENT VALUE IDEAL FEEL FEAR ANXIETY 040714
%DESIRE INTEN DISCERN COMMUNICATE EXPLICIT IMPLICIT 040714
%INDIRECT SUGGEST FACTUAL DESCRIPTION REAL POINTING 040714
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   %JUDGEMENT REJECT ALIENATE EXCLUDE EXCOMMUNICATE 040714

     Sometimes  people  misunderstand each  other  because
different  people  make  different assumptions  about  the
purposes of statements made; e.g.:

    1.  Some people of type #1 assume that most if not all
statements  made  MUST  pertain  to  judgments,    values,
ideals, feelings, fears, anxieties,  desires,  intentions,
etc.     What  such  people  seek to  discern  from  other
peoples'  statements is: what judgments,  values,  ideals,
feelings,    intentions   which    ARE-BEING-COMMUNICATED:
explicitly,  implicitly,  by-indirection,   by suggestion,
etc.  They seek to discern from each factual-statement and
each descriptive-statement: what are the judgments, vales,
ideals, feelings, fears, anxieties,  desires,  intentions,
etc.  WHICH MUST BE THE REAL POINT OF THE STATEMENTS.   To
such  people  it is beyond imagination and thought that  a
statement    might   not  meaningfully  pertain  to   any:
judgment,    value, ideal, feeling, fear, anxiety,  desire
or intention at all. The statement might be no more and no
less  than an attempt to covey only the explicit  factual,
objective, or literal meaning of the text of the statement
---   intentionally separate from any unintended emotional
overtones  which may be discerned in the offering  of  the
statement.

    2.  Other  people of type #2  may have as their  ideal
that   their  statements  convey   ONLY   objective-facts,
descriptions of apprehended   realities,     quantitative-
information,  relational-information,     trains-of-logic,
algebraic-relationships,   relationships  between  forces,
masses and accelerations, how and why a machine works, how
and why a computer works, etc.

    Type #1  people and type #2  people are likely to have
many   misunderstandings   ---    because   thy   approach
communications   with  quite different expectations  about
what is being communicated and how to go about  discerning
that  which  MUST  be  the point  of  statements  made  or
offered.

    Type #1  people cannot imagine that there could  exist
people  of type #2;  and so type #1  people are  sure that
they  are  receiving  from type #2  people  the  kinds  of
communications which type #1 people confidently expect.

    Type  #2   people cannot imagine that type #1   people
would expect only communications pertaining to  judgments,
values,   ideals,  feelings,  fears,  anxieties,  desires,
intentions, etc.  ---  but never communications pertaining
purely to: objective-facts,   descriptions  of apprehended
realities,      quantitative-information,      relational-
information,   trains-of-logic,   algebraic-relationships,
relationships  between  forces,  masses and accelerations,
how and why a machine works, how and why a computer works,
etc.   ---  devoid of anything at all beyond such kinds of
information.

    Type  #1    people are likely to make judgments  about
type   #2     people-as-persons  based  upon   what   they
unilaterally  discern  as  the   inter-personal-relational
meanings  of the statements made by type #2   people  with
explicit   intent   that  there  be  no    inter-personal-
relational   meanings  conveyed  ---    based  upon    the
assumptions and attitudes characteristic of type #1 people
as DESCRIBED above.

    Type  #2  people are likely to look  unfavorably  upon
type #1  people because type #2 people are seen by type #1
people  as  utterly unable to deal in well  informed  ways
with  statements  which are  purely  about:     objective-
facts,     descriptions    of apprehended       realities,
quantitative-information,  relational-information, trains-
of-logic,  algebraic-relationships; relationships  between
forces,     masses  and  accelerations;   how  and  why  a
mechanical-machine  works,  how  and  why  an  electronic-
computer works,   etc.  ---  devoid of anything   at   all
beyond     such    kinds    of    intentionally   explicit
objective and/or reflexive-information presentations.

    Type #1  and Type #2 people are unlikely to be able to
understand   each   other and  cooperate  well  with  each
other    in     RESOLVING    REFLEXIVE-PERSONAL-CONFLICTS,
SOLVING OBJECTIVE-TECHNICAL-PROBLEMS  and/or   responding-
graciously  to  UNAVOIDABLE-REFLEXIVE-TRAGEDIES.  

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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