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    %DOMINEERING PEOPLE INSECURE FEAR VULNERABILITY 040628
  %SAFETY SECURITY TRUE LOVERS GRACIOUS HOSPITALITY 040628
 %EVIL RELATIONSHIPS CONTROL MANAGEMENT SHARP LINES 040628
  %INTIMACY FRIENDSHIPS SEXUALITY HINTS SUGGESTIONS 040628
%EVIL DOUBTS AMBIGUITY TRAGIC ATTRACTIVE SCIENTISTS 040628
%SEDUCTION MISLEADING VALUES INTEGRITIES ALIENATION 040628

      Domineering  people are often insecure and fear  the
vulnerability  which is entailed in intimate and/or sexual
relationships.  Thus they try to control/dominate intimate
and/or sexual relationships.   As part of that pattern  of
control/domination  they  often try to draw a  sharp  line
between a-sexual-relationships which are manageable, safe,
and   secure;   and  sexual-relationships  which  are  NOT
manageable, NOT-safe, and entail-vulnerability.  They then
want   to   know  whether  or  not   each   inter-personal
relationships is or is not a sexual relationship.

      The above  pattern  of  behaviors  leads  to  tragic
consequences because:

      1.  What  makes  people  attractive  and  worthy  of
respect,   honor  and  respect  is  how  well  they   have
integrated all the mutually complementary aspects of being
truly human into a coherent whole.

      2.  The above pattern of behaviors suggests that  it
is  "good"  to leave-out of oneself the sexual aspects  of
being truly human/humane.

      3.  People  who  leave-out of themselves the  sexual
aspects  of being truly human/humane are rewarded for  not
threatening the insecure and domineering people who cannot
bear  to  be aware of the intimations  of  intimacies  and
truly healthy sexual relationships.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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