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%ACHIEVE SECURITY INVULNERABILITY ISOLATION ALONE 040427 %THEMSELVES NARCISSISTIC EGOCENTRIC SELFISH LOVERS 040427 %TRUE TRUTH OPENNESS HONESTY BALANCE ANTICIPATE GOD 040427 %TRANSCEND RISK MANAGMENT CONTROL COERCION VIOLENCE 040427 %GOOD JUST WARS VICTORY WINNING DEFEAT DISINTEGRATE 040427 %NONCONFORMISTS ENEMIES DEVILS FREEDOM GIFTS GRACED 040427 Domineering/Macho people unilaterally seek to achieve security through invulnerability for themselves in isolation --- in ways which are incompatible with justice and the mutual-insights-and-understandings of True-Lovers - - - - - - - - - - - - - - who seek to help each other person and to anticipate and transcend the risks entailed in unilateral actions; by cooperating in the building of sanctuaries for all other persons --- within which to safely exchange free gifts of the freedom to be safely-vulnerable within open and honest dialogue which does entail the significant risks of friendships, openness, intimacy, and sexuality. = = = = = = = = = = = Domineering/Macho people seek to eliminate their own taking of any risks -- by coercing/forcing their perceived evil-enemies be more-vulnerable and forcing them to take-greater-risks. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - True-Lovers seek to help each other anticipate, transcend, and cooperate in dealing with Essential-Risks through Cooperative-Prudent-Risk-Management that includes: 1. Describing risks and the consequences of risks that have previously been ignored, not anticipated, or taken-imprudently through ignorance, thoughtlessness, prejudice, etc. 2. Describing the regular-patterns-of-cause-and- effect within: objective, subjective, reflexive, spiritual and other realms of being-alone and/or being-together. 3. Describing what they each have learned through their own experiences and through their studies of what others have learned through their own: experiments, experiences, observations, meditations, discernments, and open-honest-dialogue. 4. Openly and honestly sharing their own: experiences, insights, prayers, meditations, visions, desires, hopes, expectations, fears, anxieties, wealth, resources, powers, strengths, weaknesses, etc. = = = = = = = = = = = Domineering-People play Collusive-Games-of-Mutual- Self-Deception within which they believe that they can always avoid taking any risks and so will have no need to cooperate in any mutually-agreeable-program of Wise-and- Prudent-Risk-Management. Domineering-People pretend that they can achieve security for themselves alone --- by engaging in coercive/violent activities which generate and augment: Alienation, estrangement, anger, resentment, fear, anxiety, revenge, personal- disintegrations, communal-disintegrations, distrust, secrecy, blocked-communications, suppressions, repressions, confusion, forgetfulness, disdain, arrogance, self-righteousness, judgmentalism, ignorance, prejudices, etc. Domineering-People focus upon commandments, sins, obedience, prescriptions, proscriptions, selected- scriptures, certainties, scripts, roles, formalities, conformity, ideal-forms, idealism, perfectionism, etc. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - True-Lovers focus upon: hospitality, generosity, sharing, civility, welcomes, reunions, reconciliations, communion, communities, communications, dialogue, listening, sympathy, empathy, healing, integrities, integrations, coherence, humility, peace-making, shalom, etc. True-Lovers help each other to understand the risks entailed in: honesty, openness, dialogue, friendships, intimacy, sexuality, creativity, authenticity, being- transparent, being-vulnerable, etc; --- compared to the other risks entailed in: dishonesty, secrecy, demands, alienation, coercion, insensitivity, conformity, pretense, formalities, invulnerability, etc. True-Lovers work-together in ways which are: cooperative, collaborative, constructive, mutually- complementary, balanced, integrative --- and promote communal health for all to enjoy. = = = = = = = = = = = Domineering-People rely upon manipulative technologies which are: unilateral rather than cooperative, coercive rather than gracious, violent rather than gentle, objective rather than reflexive, secretive rather than public, pretentious rather than authentic, arrogant rather than humble, alienative rather than reconciling, tragic rather than integrative. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - True-Lovers share their grief over tragedies, working to share the burdens of their tragedies, distinguishing their problems from dilemmas, dealing honestly with their limitations, dealing with probabilities honestly, honestly accepting impossibilities as such, making cooperation/collaboration possible, building communal sanctuaries in Love, which transcends: domination, collusions, addictions, alienation, contentiousness, animosity, and EVIL-RELATIONSHIPS. = = = = = = = = = = = Domineering-People view True-Lovers as being too weak to be faithful supporters of God-The-Father-of-The- Domination-System and so as not worthy of: respect, honor, trust, support, power, etc. Domineering-People cannot trust True-Lovers because True-Lovers are willing to be vulnerable unreliable-team- members in the fight to eliminate Evil-Non-Conformists from the Crew-of-Space-Ship-Earth. Domineering-People cannot be honest about the disintegrations of persons and communities which they regard as expendable in the War-Against-Evil-Non- Conformists within the Crew-of-Space-Ship-Earth --- without seriously violating the Sacred-Rules of The- Domination-System which they worship as God. Domineering-People thoughtlessly accept the assumptions upon which they found their trust in: Mutually-Assured-Destruction, WMDs, Nuclear-Arms-Races, The-Military-Industrial-Complexes, CEO-Dominations, Multilateral-Corporations'-Dominations-of-Nations, Sin, Multilateral-Corporations'-Dominations of the United- Nations, Collusions, Addictions, and other Concentrated- Fallen-Powers-That-Be --- and so they are willing to thoughtlessly sacrifice All-Personal-and-Communal- Integrities in their worship of The-Domination-System- Which-Is-Their-God. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - True-Lovers describe the ways in which the assumptions and attitudes of Domineering-People lead toward the Disintegration-of-Space-Ship-Earth and its Tragically-Misguided-Crew-Members; and show that there are ways in which to be Peacemakers-Together-in-Love. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================