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 %BLACK/WHITE EITHER/OR RIGHT/WRONG PROPER/IMPROPER 040326
   %GOOD/EVIL PERMITTED/FORBIDDEN DICHOTOMOUS GOODS 040326
 %DEVIL COERCIVE EFFORT DOMINATION SYSTEMS ANALYSIS 040326
 %INTIMACIES SEXUALITY MORALITY SPIRITUALITY IDEALS 040326
 %FORMALITIES PROPRIETIES APPEARANCES OPEN HONESTLY 040326
 %SECRET PRIVACY PUBLIC SCANDALS GOSSIP RUMORS SINS 040326

     Many EVIL-RELATIONSHIPS  originate in  the  coercive-
efforts-of-people-who-are   domineering/coercive   and who
demand-in-coercive-ways  that  they must-have-the-right to
extract-from-certain-other-people   dichotomous-YES-or-NO-
answers about the nature-of-their-private-well-integrated-
 relationships which  are in  fact NOT:   dichotomous  and
  cannot be  describe honestly in exclusively dichotomous-
   YES-or-NO-responses to questions which are dichotomous,
    intrusive and lacking in respect for people's privacy.

     Many healthy,  open and honest relationships are more
      like-rainbows-of-colors-in-the-sky --- than like the
       stark-contrasts-between-black-and-white within dull
        paintings where  there are  no-gradations-between-
         beautiful-and-diverse colors, tones,  hues,  etc.
          Healthy-relationships     often      demonstrate
           interesting kinds  of wonderful-integrity which
            cannot-be-described-honestly   in   terms  of:
             black/white,      either/or,     right/wrong,
              proper/improper, good/evil, etc.

     It is disintegrative-for-domineering-people-to-demand
      that vulnerable-people use-only-dichotomous-terms to
       describe   all-of-the-healthy-integrities-of-their-
        close-friendships to  people-who-are-immature  and
         prone-to-focus-upon-only: black/white, either/or,
          right/wrong,     proper/improper,     good/evil,
           permitted/forbidden, etc.

     Invasions of people's private and healthy lives  will
      not protect vulnerable  people who cannot adequately
       protect their own  humane  rights  as  described in
        constitutions and  the  Universal  Declaration  of
         Human Rights of the United Nations of Space-Ship-
          Earth.

     If healthy people who are well integrated do not work
      cooperatively to create sanctuary communities within
       which vulnerable  people  can  create  healthy  new
        intimate relationships  that  are  like  beautiful
         rainbows in the sky;

     then   immature  domineering/coercive   people   will
      inhibit   the   evolution   of   such    integrative
       relationships  by  coercively  intruding  into such
        integrative relationships  to  demand  dichotomous
         answers to dichotomous questions in terms of only
          mutually-exclusive-categories      such      as:
           black/white,       either/or,      right/wrong,
            proper/improper, good/evil, etc.  Dictators
             will take  charge  of the crew of Space-Ship-
              Earth.

     Dictators, domineering-people, coercive-people,  etc.
      cannot  tolerate FULL-SPECTRUMS-OF:   possibilities,
       colors,   people,  integrities,  races,   cultures,
        views,    diversity,  musical-instruments,  tones,
         orchestrations,    ideas,    ideals,     visions,
          fantasies,  principles,  tunes,  songs,   poems,
           kinds-of-True-Lovers or forms-of-creativity.

     Copying their life-styles, assumptions, attitudes and
      ways of dealing with "different-people" will  do  no
       good.  Beware of copy-cat-patterns-of-behavior when
        dealing   with   dictators,    domineering-people,
         coercive people,  etc.   True-Lovers  demonstrate
          far  more  helpful  ways of responding  to  such
           immature-patterns-of-behavior.  Our True-Lovers
            demonstrate  the  importance of building  upon
             and extending the essential  foundations  for
              personal and communal integrities.

     Violence begets violence.
      Coercion begets coercion.
       Dishonesty begets dishonesty.
        Secrecy begets secrecy.
       Wars beget wars.
      Terrorism begets terrorism.
       Domination beget domination.
        Domination-Systems beget Domination-Systems.
         Alienation begets alienation.
          Arrogance begets arrogance.
         Self-righteousness begets self-righteousness.
        Judgementalism begets judgementalism.
         Airs-of-superiority beget more of the same.
          Negations beget negations.
           Denigrations beget denigrations.
            Disrespect begets disrespect.

     To escape from the above tragic and futile cycles ---
we  must work to   understand  the   cycles ---    and  in
informed/intentional ways decide to GO-AGAINST-THE-FLOW in
ways  which  are  based-upon  knowledge-and-understanding;
rather  than  based-upon  ignorance,   prejudices-and-mis-
understandings.    To behave wisely and prudently we  must
prepare   thoroughly  by  studying  and   clarifying   the
essential foundations for:

     (1)  personal-and-communal-integrities,
     (2)  open-and-honest-dialogue, including listening,
     (3)  mutual-understanding-and-trust,
     (4)  reconciliation, healing and peacemaking,
     (5)  enjoying-security-while-being-safely-vulnerable,
     (6)  long-term-reconciliation and cooperation.

     Usually it will be helpful for  us to declare openly,
honestly  and  publicly when  we  make the above  kind  of
change in outlook and intention; and it will be helpful to
give our own personal reasons for us making  such  changes
in our outlook and intentions.    Our behaviors and public
statements  must demonstrate  coherence and integrity  ---
else  people   are  unlikely  to  feel free to  trust  us;
especially    when   we  "change-course"   or  revert   to
"traditional-ways".
                                   Shalom!

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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