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 %NEGATIVE POSITIVE PROHIBITIONS ENCOURAGEMENTS SEX 040325
 %MORALISTIC THEOLOGICAL WAR TERROR FREQUENT RARELY 040325
%ABSOLUTE TRUTHS PROABILITIES OPENNESS HONESTY GODS 040325
%INTIMACIES INVULNERABILITY SECURITY DEFENSES DEVIL 040325
%GUIDELINES WALLS FENCES BOUNDARIES SUGGESTIONS SIN 040325
  %GUILT SHAME EMBARRASS FEAR ALIEN INTEGRITY PEACE 040325

     There  is  within many cultures a  tendency  to  make
moral   and  theological  statements  about  sexuality  in
negative terms,  more frequently than in  positive  terms.
There  are MORE prohibitions about sexuality and  intimacy
than there  are  encouragements  towards healthy sexuality
and intimacy.   What are some of  the possible reasons for
this imbalance which favors  prohibitions,   and  neglects
encouragements    of    intimacy   and   healthy    sexual
relationships?  Consider the following "hints"  about what
might  be  the  possible  reasons,   causes,   and  inter-
relationships that are "behind" the imbalance:

    1.  Domineering leaders playing dominant roles?
    2.  Fear predominating over Love and True-Lovers?
    3.  God being described as a domineering leader?
    4.  Ignorance predominating over true knowledge?
    5.  Sexual ignorance maintained by fearful peoples?
    6.  False knowledge about who is good and/or evil?
    7.  Eating of the tree of sexual knowledge of good?
    8.  Eating of the tree of sexual knowledge of evil?
    9.  Not knowing the nature of EVIL-RELATIONSHIPS?
   10.  Not knowing the nature of LOVE-RELATIONSHIPS?
   11.  Exclusivity dominating over inclusivity in Love?
   12.  Preoccupations with controls and invulnerability?
   13.  Believing that invulnerability brings security?
   14.  Believing that vulnerability brings insecurity?
   15.  Believing that true-beliefs are not important?
   16.  Believing that false-beliefs are important?
   17.  Being embarrassed by sexual knowledge?
   18.  Not being free to let-go in any sanctuary?
   19.  Not being truly loved in truly intimate ways?
   20.  Striving for perfection, rather than intimacy?
   21.  Striving to fulfill ideal-forms, not visions?
   22.  Striving to-conform, rather than to-dialogue?
   23.  Striving to-command, rather than to-listen?
   24.  Striving to-control, rather than be-in-Love?
   26.  Striving to-overcome, rather than to be-true?
   27.  Striving to-protect collusions, not authenticity?
   28.  Striving to-protect invulnerability, not honesty?
   29.  Striving to-protect possessions, not authenticity?
   30.  Striving to-protect conformity, not creativity?

     What  realistic  steps can we take to start  to  move
toward  a  more  healthy  balance  between  statements  of
caution  about the risks of intimacy and  sexuality;   and
statements  of  encouragement about growing  into  healthy
intimate    relationships   and   sexual    relationships?
Obviously there will need to be a healthy balance  between
emphases  upon:  formalities,   informalities,  instincts,
rationality,   laws,  rules,  regulations,   descriptions,
prescriptions,    proscriptions,   demonstrations,   role-
modeling,  texts, songs, dance, art, stories,  traditions,
spontaneity, creativity,  etc.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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