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    %TRUE LOVERS PARTICIPATE MEANINGFULLY SANCTUARY+040203
  %CAST OUT FEAR SELF OTHER PAST PRESENT THREATENED+040203
 %COERCION VIOLENCE DISHONESTY MISLEADING BEHAVIORS+040203
 %RIGHTEOUSNESS ARROGANCE UNILATERAL DOMINATION SIN+040203
   %CONTROLS CONCENTRATION CORRUPTION WEALTH POWERS+040203
  %REJECTION ACCEPTANCE EXCLUSIONS EXCOMMUNICATIONS 040203
                                                          
     True Lovers   participate meaningfully    in    True-
Sanctuary Communities only to the extent that they do  NOT
fear each other because of past, present and threatened:  
                                                          
     1.  Coercion and/or violence.                        
     2.  Dishonesty and/or misleading behaviors.          
     3.  Self righteousness and/or arrogance.             
     4.  Unilateral domination and/or controls.           
     5.  Concentrations of wealth and/or powers.          
     6.  Rejections, exclusions and/or excommunications.  
     7.  Alienations, estrangements and/or judgments.     
     8.  Attacks, terrorism, and/or use of WMDs.          
     9.  Preparations for and/or actual wars.             
    10.  Tragic unilateral and/or non cooperative actions.
    11.  Anger, rage, revenge and/or threats of them.     
    12.  Unilateral permanent isolation and/or withdrawal.
    13.  Creating conflicts or maintaining old conflicts. 
    14.  Refusing to forgive and become reconciled.       
    15.  Labelling other individuals as evil enemies.     
    16.  Treating other individuals according to labels.  
    17.  Refusing to take the risks of true cooperation.  
    18.  Refusing to take the risks of love & intimacy.   
    19.  Refusing to take the risks of true sexuality.    
    20.  Presuming that righteousness involves withdrawal.
    21.  Rejecting complementary people, values & ideals. 
    22.  Turning all conflicts into dichotomous conflicts.
    23.  Demanding greater certainty than has integrity.  
    24.  Refusing to be honest about finite probabilities.
    25.  Treating selected people as superior people.     
    26.  Treating selected people as inferior people.     
                                                          
     The  above  kinds of behaviors cannot  be  reduce  by
resorting  to the above kinds of behaviors in reaction  to
the above kinds of behaviors on the part of other people. 
                                                          
     Domineering people CANNOT participate meaningfully in
True Sanctuary Communities --- to the extent that they are
faithful to:  "The Domination System",  "The Fallen Powers
That Be", "Their Collusive Games of Mutual Self Deception"
and/or their idolatrous worship of dichotomies,  coercion,
conflicts,  contentiousness, dishonesty, arrogance,  self-
righteousness  and like patterns of thought  and  behavior
which undermine all  forms  of true  personal and communal
integrities.                                              
                                                          
     Be attentive,  aware and beware --- when domineering-
people appear  to be affirming any virtue which appears to
merit  respect,  honor,  support  or a bit  of  reverence.
Such  appearances  of  affirmations   are  likely  to   be
pretentious ---  because they  cannot with  integrity make
such an affirmation and remain faithful to their  ultimate
concerns which are  indicated above.   Look for signs that
their  motivations   and   technologies  are inconsistent/
incoherent with any  true  dedication  to facilitating and
promoting   any  true  forms  of  personal  and   communal
integrities;   as  well  as looking  for  signs  that  the
"virtues" which they  "affirm"   have been  "affirmed"  by
"well integrated" institutions in the past.               
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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