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 %EVOLUTION TRUE RESPECT FRIENDSHIPS INTIMACIES SEX 040112
 %GOD PEACEMAKERS CONFLICT RESOLUTION DIPLOMACY GOD 040112
 %GRADUAL SUDDEN INDIVIDUAL INVITATIONS DEMANDS LAW 040112
 %HOSPITALITY ATTACK CIVILITY CONHTENTIOUS BOUNDARY 040112
  %NEIGHBORHOOD YARD FENCES SHARP LINES DICHOTOMIES 040112
 %ACCEPT REJECT COLABORATE COOPERATE MUTUALITY LOVE 040112

     The   evolutions  of  true:   respect,   friendships, 
intimacies, sexuality,   peacemaking,  conflict-resolution 
and diplomacy: 
     
     1.  Are usually gradual processes, rarely achieved by 
sudden steps. 
     
     2.  Involve more invitations than demands/commands. 
     
     3.  Involve more occasions  of  hospitality,  than of 
attacks. 
     
     4.  Show civility rather than contentiousness. 

     5.  Involve blurring/crossing; as well as sharpening, 
clarifying, augmenting, and defending of boundaries. 

     6.  Involve   the   transcendence   of    thoughtless 
traditions  ---  as well as the affirmation of  thoughtful 
traditions which promote and facilitate both personal  and 
communal integrities. 

     7.  Entail   people   offering  gracious  invitations 
through  words  and patterns of  behavior;   and  gracious 
indications   of   acceptance  of   some   such   gracious 
invitations -- through truly responsive words and patterns 
of behavior. 
     
     8.  Involve    communications   through:    openness, 
honesty,  civility, hospitality, generosity,  cooperation, 
balance,   and  other  reliable  signs  of:   motivations, 
desires, hopes, aspirations and intentions. 
  
     9.  Are  not facilitated or promoted by:  unilateral, 
domineering,   coercive   and/or   violent   ---  demands, 
commands,   expectations,   requirements,   prescriptions, 
proscriptions and/or preconditions. 
      
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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