This is http://www.essayz.com/b0401101.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %COOPERATIVE BALANCED OPEN HONEST DIALOGUE WORKER 040110 %INTIMATE FRIENDSHIPS SEXUALITY RESPONSIBILITY SIN 040110 %EVIL RELATIONSHIP ACCUSE BLAME SHAME TRY PUNISHED 040110 %MOST VULNERABLE VICTIM LABELED EXCOMMUNICATED GOD 040110 %PUNISH CAUSE EFFECT ALIENATE PERSONAL INTEGRITIES 040110 %INTERNALIZED INCOHERENT IDEALS VALUES GOALS LOVES 040110 Domineering people often fail to distinguish between actions for which just one person is clearly responsible, and actions for which the responsibility rests upon two or more people acting cooperatively. In the instances of cooperative behaviors on the part of two or more people --- domineering people often pick the most vulnerable individual to blame, shame, accuse and punish. Domineering people do not work to help all people to understand all of the significant actors' various motivations, considerations, beliefs, convictions, rights, etc. Domineering people seek to minimize their own costs through unilateral efforts to dominate and be in control --- by focusing attention exclusively upon the most vulnerable individuals as individuals. Communities as communities are ignored. Communal integrity is readily sacrificed by domineering people. Whenever communal integrity is sacrificed, so also is personal integrity; because all kinds of integrity are inevitably inter-connected and inter-dependent. Integrity is not a collection of un- integrated/isolated parts. A threat to any one aspect of integrity is a threat to all aspects of integrity. Domineering people have internalized (collected) within themselves incoherent sets of desires, ideals, values and principles --- which they have not integrated within themselves. Within domineering people there exist many unresolved ideological conflicts; particularly between un-acknowledged desires, ideals, values and principles and the dominant ones of which they are most aware. Their internal conflicts spill out into their communities and create collusive games of mutual self deception within their communities; just as within individual domineering people. To "succeed" at their collusive games, domineering people must subvert/undermine the works of "True-Lovers" who will not stand idly by in the presence of: mis- representations, pretentious-behaviors, arrogance, self- righteousness, dishonesty, etc. By graciously being "True-Lovers" such unconventional people expose to the light of day the natures of incoherent-domineering-people, and of the games such people play. "True-Lovers" leave it to observers to decide how they should respond to domineering people and to "True-Lovers". Such true freedom is intolerable to domineering people. Domineering people demand that observers respond in prescribed ways according to the proper interpretations of scriptures which have been written and interpreted by domineering people down through thousands of years. Modern people are not to treat their own experiences/discernments as in any way authoritative for them. Domineering people must be unilaterally in charge; in control. The Domineering People's God will punish the non-conformists who creatively demonstrate both personal and communal integrities which expose the absence of integrities within domineering people and the fruits of their works. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================