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   %TRAPPED IMPRISONED DOUBLE BINDS FEARFUL ANXIOUS+030930
%DARE NOT ASK FOR HELP COUNSELING SUGGESTIONS LOVER+030930
%DREAD DISCOVERY EXPOSURE PROPHETS TRUE FRIENDSHIPS+030930
%IMPOSTOR PRETENTIOUS ACTING ROLE PLAYING AUTHENTIC+030930
  %FAILURES NONCONFORMITY PROPRIETY PROPER BEHAVIOR+030930
%TRAITOR ENEMY LOYALTY RELIABILITY DISOBEDIENCE SIN 030930
                                                          
     Very few people  are so all together,  mentally well,
and/or well integrated,  that they never  need any advice,
suggestions,  counseling,  guidance,  encouragement,  etc.
from anybody.                                             
                                                          
     In  fact  it  is some of the  people  who  most  need
advice,    suggestions,    counseling,    guidance  and/or
encouragement ---  that are least prone to seek or welcome
such help.  This is true of people who:                   
                                                          
1.  Are striving for independence and self sufficiency.   
                                                          
2.  Fear all forms of vulnerability and dependence.       
                                                          
3.  Aspire to fulfill the "macho" mentality.              
                                                          
4.  Are playing collusive games of mutual self deception. 
                                                          
5.  Are addicts with substantial codependent supporters.  
                                                          
6.  Are codependent supporters blinded by firm addicts.   
                                                          
7.  Cannot bear to admit that they have made mistakes.    
                                                          
8.  Cannot let go of long respected beliefs/convictions.  
                                                          
9.  Are dominated by a clique/gang of domineering friends.
                                                          
10. Have not been involved in a truly loving relationship.
                                                          
11. Believe that absolute certainty is admirable.         
                                                          
12. Believe that we should never trust strangers.         
                                                          
13. Cannot acknowledge their own human limits/limitations.
                                                          
14. Believe that they are/can be superior to most others. 
                                                          
15. Do not trust true lovers who do not respect all laws. 
                                                          
16. Want everything to be done by the book the right way. 
                                                          
17. Want to be in charge/control by their book --- always.
                                                          
18. See all issues in either/or dichotomous ways.         
                                                          
19. Do not respect complementary affirmations which others
    make.                                                 
                                                          
20. Do not respect people who are different/creative.     
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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