This is http://www.essayz.com/b0309221.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %TRANSCENDING DYSFUNCTIONAL DEVIL RELATIONSHIPS SIN+030922 %ISOLATION ALIENATION EXCOMMUNICATION WAR WITHIN US+030922 %PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRATION INTEGRITIES ASPECTS+030922 %PARADIGMS ENJOY YEARNED FOR GAIN OVERALL PATTERNS+030922 %COLUMNS SEXUAL DOMINATION SYSTEM TRUE LOVERS GODS+030922 %INTIMATES EXTREMISTS RECONCILIATION HEALERS PEACE 030922 There is an apparently never ending war within us and within our personal/communal relationships --- between contrasting aspects of the paradigms --- by which we attempt to enjoy yearned for gain. The aspects of our paradigms which are at war with each other's aspects --- may be pointed to by words/phrases found in the two contrasting columns of words/phrases below --- where it is the OVERALL PATTERN which EACH- WHOLE COLUMN points toward --- that is in contrast to what the OVERALL- PATTERN which the other column points toward. The following two columns DO NOT CONTAIN or CONTROL that toward which the columns point --- because words and/or phrases DO NOT CONTAIN or- CONTROL that toward which the words/phrases point. TRUE LOVE DISHONEST EVIL HONESTY DECEPTION AUTHENTICITY PRETENTIOUSNESS COOPERATIVE DOMINANT COLLABORATIVE UNILATERAL CONCILIATORY DEMANDING CONSENSUS MAJORITY RULES CIVILITY CONTENTIOUSNESS TRUE LOVERS POWER CONCENTRATORS GENEROSITY GREED HOSPITALITY HOSTILITY LIBERATORS LEGALISTS/CONTROLLERS RECONCILERS JUDGEMENTALISTS HUMILITY HUMILIATORS SERVANTS LORDS COMMONERS COMMANDERS HEALERS CONTENDERS/COMPETITORS RELAXATION COMBATANTS LOVERS ATTACKERS GIVING TAKING SHARING ACCUMULATING LETTING GO CLUTCHING DEMONSTRATING DEMANDING INVITATIONS CONTROLS WELCOMING OFFENDING - - - - - - - - - - - - The PARADIGM ASPECTS pointed two by the WHOLE PATTERN of the words/phrases in one column --- systematically undermine the PARADIGM ASPECTS pointed to by the WHOLE PATTERN of the words/phrases in the contrasting WHOLE PATTERN of the other column. The WHOLE PATTERN pointed to by words/phrases in one column is often associated with EVIL RELATIONSHIPS. The WHOLE PATTERN pointed to by words/phrases in the contrasting column is often associated with LOVE. So long as we do NOT deal OPENLY and HONESTLY with the TRUTHS POINTED TO ABOVE --- we will continue to be dominated by the wars between the CONTRASTING ASPECTS of our CONTRASTING PARADIGMS. - - - - - - - - - - - - It is DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS wherein evil resides. Isolated/alienated individuals are the victims of DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS which created them in ways which make the isolated/alienated individuals appear to be essentially evil individuals. DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS have more power than do isolated/alienated individuals. The EVIL POWERS THAT BE reside in THE DOMINATION SYSTEM which has concentrated those EVIL POWERS THAT BE within IT; destroying I Thou healthy/healing relationships which transcend I It alienative relationships. We need to focus our attention and efforts upon healing our DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS; not upon: blaming, shaming, guilting, controlling, dominating, banishing, excommunicating or eliminating individuals who have been labeled as: "evil", "witches", "devils", "fallen", "condemned", "sinners", "imperfect", etc. There is no justice in blaming isolated/alienated individuals for the ways in which they have been created and victimized by the DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS which created/moved them into their isolation/alienation! (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================