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 %TRUE LOVERS DISCERN TRUST COOPERATE CAUTIOUS HOPE 030724
 %POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS COMPLEMENTARY SPECTRUM FALL 030724
 %ASK UNBIASED QUESTION VIRTUES IDEALS VALUES DEVIL 030724
    %GOODNESS PERSONAL COMMUNAL RIGHTEOUS SALVATION 030724
     %DOMINATION SYSTEM HIDDEN COLLUSION DISHONESTY 030724

     In the light of essays preceding this one ---  we may
well  ask  how are true-lovers to discern  when  they  can
trust and best  cooperate  with;  and whom they  should be
cautious with and be hesitant to cooperate with?

     Ask people:

     1.  What  they  affirm  in the most  positive  terms;
e.g.,  how can we more helpfully spend our time, energies,
money and resources ---  and for what reasons would  it be
more  helpful to spend as  they  recommend; rather than as
has  often be done?   Ask them to recommend how to improve
our whole spectrum of priorities.

     2.  What virtues,  ideals, values and principles they
regard  as  the  foundations  for  diverse  personal   and
communal integrities.

     3.  What they regard the essence of "evil" to be; and
what they regard as the essence of "goodness"  to be.  How
are the two to be recognized,  identified,   distinguished
and responded to?

     4.  What we should be most fearful of, and what  they
view as not meriting much fear --- even though many people
may fear that which does not merit much fear?

     5.  What is the best way to deal with the fears which
most commonly plague humans?

     6.  What  are  the  most helpful ways  to  deal  with
people who often blunder,  make  mistakes,  make errors in
judgment, are not loyal, behave improperly, etc.

     7.  Which leaders they most admire; least admire.

     By  how  people  respond to the  questions  suggested
above we can elicit responses which are quite revealing as
to  what  kinds  of  people they are.    As  indicated  in
previous  essays --- true-lovers will demonstrate one kind
of pattern of thoughts,   attitudes  and assumptions;  and
domineering  people  will  demonstrate quite  a  different
pattern of thoughts, attitudes and assumptions.

     True-lovers usually demonstrate personal and communal
integrities  which  make no sense to  domineering  people.

     Domineering people,  even when trying to appear to be
respectable,  trustworthy and righteous ---  give  signals
which  are  inconsistent with the  patterns  of  thoughts,
attitudes  and  assumptions  of true-lovers.   They reveal
their true nature quite clearly to true-lovers  who  think
clearly and carefully.

     Domineering  people do not know how to conceal  their
true natures from true-lovers.

     True-lovers  try  to reveal  their  true  natures  to
domineering people;  but domineering people do not dare to
discern that which true-lovers seek to reveal ---  because
it   would   devastate   "The  Domination   System"   that
domineering  people worship ---  and to which they readily
sacrifice whatever shreds of integrity they may still have
within themselves and their relationships with others.

     Domineering people do NOT want to know and understand
true-lovers,  and so cannot manipulate true-lovers ---  no
matter how hard they try.   To understand true-lovers they
would  have to let go of "The Domination System"  which is
their God.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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