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 %HELPFUL CLEAR WAYS DESCRIBE INEVITABLE CHOSEN SIN 030707
 %EVIL RELATIONSHIPS CONSEQUENCES ALIENATIVE IDEALS 030707
 %VALUES PRINCIPLES ETHICS MORALITY CONTROLS FORCES 030707
%CAUSES EFFECTS UNINTENDED NATURAL PATTERN RESPONSE 030707
 %OBJECTIVE REFLEXIVE INTIMATE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS 030707
%LEARN OPEN HONEST SANCTUARY COMMUNITY EXPERIMENTAL 030707

     We  need  to develop and helpfully use clear ways  of
describing the inevitable, versus the chosen, consequences
of   ALIENATIVE:    ideals,   values, principles,  ethics,
morality,  controls,  domination;   and of human behaviors
guided by them.

     It is not  easy  to  sort  out the invariable natural
pattern   of  consequences  ---   from  the   pattern   of
consequences of alienative  human choices --- choices made
in response to human actions and relationships.

     We  need  to  be clear about the  difference  between
HELPFULLY-DESCRIBING    the   OBJECTIVE-CONSEQUENCES    of
OBJECTIVE:  actions,  relationships and realities ---   in
contrast   to  the  REFLEXIVE-CONSEQUENCES  of  REFLEXIVE:
actions, relationships and realities --- each within their
respective realms of possible integrity.

     Consider possible-objective versus possible-reflexive
consequences ---  of objective versus reflexive:  actions,
relationships and realities --- within the realm of humane
intimate and sexual relationships which are: open, honest,
gentle,   kind,   balanced,  mutual,  prudent,   informed,
thoughtful AND integrative.

     What   communal   consensus,   rules,    regulations,
boundaries,  taboos, etc.  should pertain to healthy adult
consensual intimacies and sexual experimentation;  and  to
the accurate reporting of the experimental results on  the
part of humane individuals, couples, triangles,  quartets,
etc?    Who  is  to decide?   Upon  what  basis/authority?
Experimental  and/or  scriptural?    Institutional  and/or
individual?    On   the   basis   of  which experimenters,
experiments,   scriptures and/or authentic individuals  or
authoritative individuals?   Based  upon what theories of:
evil and ways of pointing to: truths, causes, effects, and
their  inter-connections?    Upon what  theory  of  power:
creations, concentrations, corruptions and distributions?

     How  can  we most helpfully and humanely explore  and
reliably  describe the limits of what is humanely possible
---     within    the    realms     of     intimate/sexual
relationships among:    open,    honest and humane adults?
How  are  the causes and effects of  evil-relationships to
be  discerned,  described and transcended?   How  are  the
effects of natural human  variations  and  differences  to
be    recognized,   identified,   named,   described   and
graciously dealt with?

     When we are  not living within  sanctuary communities
wherein  we are truly free to be safely vulnerable in open
and   honest  dialogue  about   the   results/consequences
(inevitable and chosen)  of our  intimate experimentations
---   we  lose  the advantages of learning from  both  the
"good"  and  the  "bad"  experiences which we have in  our
lives.  This fact of life should help us consider in a new
light  many of the questions raised above in  this  essay.
It  may be helpful to re-read and re-consider all of  this
essay in the light of all that has been said above!

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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