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  %ACHIEVE ENJOY BELIEVE LOVERS LETTING GO CONTRARY 030617
  %DISAPPOINT FRUSTRATED ANGRY RESENTFUL REVENGEFUL 030617
%PROJECT BLAME SHAME GUILT AWAY EVEN SCORE PUNISHED 030617
%SUPERIOR BETTER BEST ALIENATION EVIL-RELATIONSHIPS 030617
%TRUE DISHONEST DECEPTION COOPERATIVE COLLABORATION 030617
 %FORCE VIOLENCE COERCION PURITY PERFECTION CONTROL 030617

     If  we  attempt  to "achieve"  and "enjoy"   what  we
believe  lovers  do  ---    while we  do  not  let  go  of
contentious  thoughts and expectations ---  we are  likely
to:

     1.  Be disappointed and/or frustrated,
     2.  Be resentful, angry, revengeful;
     3.  Project blame, shame and guilt on others,
     4.  Try to "even the score" through punishments,
     5.  Think we are superior to others,
     6.  Augment our alienation and evil-relationships,

     It  is misleading to believe that,  or to act as  if,
ANY kind of SUPERIORITY can be used by any person or group
to "achieve"  or "enjoy"  that which true-lovers know  and
enjoy by being cooperative together in Love.

     Each  desire and behavior which fails to  acknowledge
the above described facts of life ---  will naturally lead
to frustration,  alienation and disintegration; regardless
of  which  of the following (or other)  kinds of  presumed
"superiority" is involved in the desire(s) or behavior(s):

     1. Force,  2. Coercion,  3. Violence,

      4. Purity,  5. Perfection, 6. Exclusivity

       7. Dominance, 8. Controls, 9. Secrecy

        10. Deception,     11. Laws,   12. Regulations

         13. Commandments, 14. Rituals,   15. Doctrines,

         16. Polity,      17. Confessions,  18. Sincerity,

         19. Certainty,   20. Enforcement,  21. Authority,

        22. Proofs,       23. Logic,        24. Reason,

       25. Technologies, 26. Spirituality,  27. Gifts,

      28. Scriptures,   29. Analyses,      30. Conclusions

     Arrogance and self-righteousness are NOT among  God's
favored  means  to salvation.   Those people  who  presume
otherwise become disappointed,  frustrated,  alienated and
involved in evil-relationships.

     True-lovers  are  NOT so mis-guided away  from  God's
Love --- and so away from cooperative adventures in  Love.
By    remaining   cooperatively  together  in   Love   ---
true-lovers  avoid  much  frustration and grief.    Lovers
pray  together   that    they  may   let   go   of   their
Domination Systems;      that  they  be  let go  by  their
Domination  Systems,     that  they  let  each  other   go
graciously  in Love and  let  go of domination ---    that
they may enjoy  each other in Love.

     By taking gracious risks together  in balanced   ways
---  lovers find their true-ways in Love ---  together  as
true-lovers;  who are true to themselves and to each other
in  their  own  unique  ways  ---   ways  which  are  well
integrated through sharing their  mutually   complementary
faith-journeys.    Therein  they  find  meaning  and  joy.
Shalom!
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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