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%DOMINEERING CONCEALMENT ACHILLES HEEL TRUEST LOVER 030616
%CRACK COSMIC EGG HIDE SECRETS FAMILY SECURITY EVIL 030616
%DOUBLE BIND COLLUSIVE GAMES MUTUAL SELF DECEPTIONS 030616
%MOST TRUSTED INTIMATE FRIEND HONORED REVERENCE SIN 030616
 %SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS INVITATIONS COURTSHIP LOVERS 030616
%VULNERABLE POINTS MISTAKES ERRORS BLUNDERS FAILURE 030616

     Each  domineering  person  is  ultimately  trying  to
conceal their own unique most-vulnerable-point;  their own
Achilles heel.

     The-trust-lovers    are free of the burden of  trying
to conceal any Achilles heal.   Their freedom and security
are outside  of  the realm of  the  lives  of  domineering
people;  i.e.,  people who continue to try to conceal that
they even have an Achilles heel.  Much less do domineering
people  dare to let anybody know the nature of  their  own
Achilles heel.   The most-true-lovers know true   security
within  the  gracious freedom to  be   safely   vulnerable
within  intimate  relationships  ---    within sanctuaries
where   they   feel  no  need  to  conceal   any  Achilles
heel.     In contrast,  for domineering people their  BEST
CONCEALED SECRET MAY BE:

     1.  Whom they have most fully trusted, honored and/or
reverenced.

     2.  What ideals, values, principles, goals,  desires,
hopes, dreams, fantasies, aspirations, people, friends and
enemies  ---  have played the most central roles in  their
lives --- for good or ill.

     3.  What mistakes,  doubts,  blunders,   temptations,
lies,  deceptions,  pretentions and contentions they  have
most tenatiously hold onto and kept-hidden-from all people
--- including themselves.

     4.  Where  some "evil-enemy"  is most likely to  find
to  be  the   weakest  point in their  suit  of  defensive
armor  ---  which  hides their own  lack of any  ultimate:
integrity, power, certainty, true-knowledge,  endurance or
intimacy.

     5.  What  is  the crack-in-the-cosmic-egg  of   their
defensive:   paradigm,  gang,  church,  state,  sexuality,
spirituality,  profession, doctrines, formalities, habits,
rituals,  secrete, pretentions, contentions, "intimacies",
"significance"  and/or "meaning"  within  Love's relation-
ships.

     6.  The defensive technology which they might be most
willing  to let go of ---  because of how unreliable  that
defensive technology is in serving their special needs.

     7.  What true-lover they most admire.

     8.  What  secret  they most want to share  with  some
other person.

     9.  What  insights and perspectives they most want to
share with others.

    10.  What  realities  and experiences have  been  most
awesome,     and the occasion of the most meaningful sense
of reverence in their lives.

     So  long as domineering people continue to keep their
best secrets to themselves ---  so long they will continue
to  undermine  diverse  forms  of  personal  and  communal
integrities  ---  while feeling superior to the  poor  and
vulnerable people whom they fear and harm.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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