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%UNTIE GORDIAN KNOTS PATTERNS INHUMAN BEHAVIORS SIN 030609
%MERIT REVERENCE RESPECT HONOR SUPPORT UNDERMINE IT 030609
 %THOU BUBER PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITIES PUNISHED 030609
%VULNERABLE DISOBEDIENCE EXCOMMUNICATE REJECTION GO 030609
   %COERCIVE VIOLENCE DISHONESTY PRETENSE DECEPTION 030609
%ARROGANCE SELF-RIGHTEOUS ALIENATED EXCOMMUNICATION 030609

     The  following  patterns of human  behaviors  do  NOT
merit our reverence, respect, honor or support --- because
they   undermine  many  kinds  of  personal  and  communal
integrities:

     1.  Domineering people's threats to punish vulnerable
         people for disobedience/non-conformity by means  
         of:

     a.  Excommunicating the vulnerable people from  them;
         i.e., from the domineering people.

     b.  Rejection,    banishment     or    ridicule    of
         vulnerable people --- by the domineering people.

     c.  Withholding   from  the vulnerable   people   ---
         merited honors, respect, rewards, and advantages.

     2.  Domineering    people's  coercive/violent   self-
         serving uses of:

     a.  Dishonesty, pretense and deception.

     b.  Self-righteous demands and commandments.

     3.   Arrogant  pre-scriptions   and    pro-scriptions
          combined  with  disdain toward accurate  de-
          scriptions  of the consequences of what they do.

     a.  Appearances of superiority on their part.

     b.  Denigrations of vulnerable people of all kinds.

     c.  The   enslavement   of   vulnerable   people   by
         domineering people.

     d.  Taxing  many poor people in ways which lead  rich
         people  to  become even richer as the poor people
         are led to  become poorer,   sicker,    less well
         informed and more vulnerable.

     4.  Communal  patterns of behavior which promote  and
         maintain:

     a.  Confusion regarding the difference between "good"
         and "evil"  relationships between/among people of
         all kinds.

     b.  Ignorance  relating to the essential foundations
         for personal-communal integrity-health.

     c.  Ignorance  regarding natural-descriptive-laws ---
         as  compared to  the  arbitrary,  capricious  and
         prejudicial laws of domineering people.

     d.  Prejudices  treated  as truths  which  are  never
         to  be  questioned nor shown to be wrong  by  any
         kind  of   demonstrations  by   true-lovers   who
         transcend  the prejudices that appear to be  holy
         and/or sacred.

     e.  Collusive games of mutual self deception.

     f.  Addictions and codependent supporters of them.

     g.  "The  Domination System"  revered and treated  as
         if   IT  were  God revealed in  the  "I-It"  mode
         of being in relationships.

     h.  The   notions   that  sexual   relationships  and
         pleasures  are  inherently  evil  and  should  be
         minimize and/or avoided if at all possible.

     i.  Personal    relationships     of:     alienation,
         estrangement,   distrust,  resentment,  suspicion
         and mis-understanding.

     j.  Anger and desires for "sweet revenge".

     k.  Unjust  disparities   maintained  by  the    most
         powerful people   to maintain "superior"   levels
         of   personal:   honor,   respect,   wealth   and
         advantages.

     l.  Vulnerable people  who are made  to  feel diverse
         forms of guilt, shame, and/or low self-esteem ---
         "on    cue"   ---   for  failing   to   be  loyal
         supporters of "The   Domination  System"  and its
         most favored "servants".

     m.  Perverse   domineering   people's    narcissistic
         substitutes    for   repressed   honest    sexual
         pleasures;   e.g.,  substitutes enjoyed by  mean-
         people   who   take-advantage of,  and  sexually-
         abuse  poor-people  ---  who have    in-ignorance
         made    the    mistake   of   making   themselves
         vulnerable  to domineering people ---  to try  to
         please them ---  when the domineering people were
         NOT   seeking   any  authentic/honest    form  of
         intimacy  ---  but presented themselves  as doing
         so with arrogant authority.

     n.  Public  and  private patterns of addiction  (and
         codependent  support  of    addictions)   wherein
         participants  depend  upon taking  advantage   of
         and abusing  each other's particular forms of and
         points  of   vulnerability  ---   and/or  "needs"
         for    a   "fix"   related   to  their    various
         addictions ---   which may  involve  mixtures of:
         drugs,  alcohol, sexuality, work,   achievements,
         honors, pride, roles, scripts, etc.

     o.  Disrespect  for  true-lovers who see-through  the
         above  confusing   and   misleading  patterns  of
         arrogance and deceit.

     Of prime importance is discovering and clarifying how
true-lovers can  best approach the issues raised above ---
and  so  how best to approach personal the people  who are
entrapped   in the webs of disabling conflicts pointed  to
by the above considerations.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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