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%GOOD EVIL RESPONSE DYSFUNCTIONAL PATTERNS BEHAVIOR 030518
%ACTUAL EFFECTS CAUSES EXPERIENCES EXPERIMENTS FIND 030518
%IMPOSSIBILITY CONTRIBUTE ENGENDER SEE BLIND HEARER 030518
%LISTEN UNDERSTAND COLLUSIVE GAME MUTUAL SELF OTHER 030518
%RIGHTEOUS ARROGANT SANCTUARY COMMUNITY SAFELY OPEN 030518
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     When  we  are  trying  to  deal  with   dysfunctional
patterns  of human behaviors ---  we need to look for  and
try  to understand: the ACTUAL EFFECTS of diverse patterns
of  dysfunctional-behaviors ---  and the ACTUAL EFFECTS of
people's responses to  dysfunctional-behaviors. We need to
be  open  to   the  possibility  that  our  responses   to
dysfunctional-behaviors can  themselves  be dysfunctional-
behaviors    ---   which contribute  to future  additional
dysfunctional-behaviors.

     If we  do-not-see,   cannot-see or  refuse-to-see ---
how   ACTUAL   EFFECTS    of    diverse     patterns    of
dysfunctional-behaviors/responses are  inter-connected ---
it  will   be exceedingly   difficult    to    learn-from-
what-is-ACTUALLY  HAPPENING.    Collusive-games-of-mutual-
self-deception   can blind us ---  so that we  do-not-see,
cannot-see,    or  refuse-to-see  the  ACTUAL  EFFECTS  of
behaviors   as  connected  to the  dysfunctional-behavior;
which is often viewed as  "good" behavior by those who are
engaged in it in self-righteous-and-arrogant dysfunctional
ways  ---   even  while responding  to what  is  generally
viewed as dysfunctional-behavior.

     One  of  the  most important effects of any  form  of
behavior is the effect it has on people's FUTURE abilities
and  dispositions  to  openly and honestly share what they
have experienced through  their  interactions with others.
Are   the  effects:   Alienation?,   Revulsion?,    Pain?,
Reconciliation?, Healing?,   Pleasure?,    Encouragement?,
Learning?, Understanding?,  Withdrawal?, Excommunication?,
Acceptance?,   Rejection?  These effects  pertain to  both
dysfunctional-behaviors --- which are generally recognized
as  such;  and to efforts of "good-people"  to respond  in
"correctional ways" to the initial dysfunctional-behaviors
---  which are generally recognized  as such.   Rarely are
the  "correctional behaviors" recognized as dysfunctional-
behaviors --- especially not by those who engage in them.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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