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%FAULT FINDERS HYPER CRITICAL PERFECTIONISTS NARROW+030411
   %CRITICISM JUDGEMENTALISTS DOMINEERING ADVANTAGE+030411
 %SAFELY VULNERABLE SECURITY SANCTUARY IMPERFECTION+030411
%DISCIPLINE PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITY HEALTHY GOD+030411
%QUALITY CONTROL STANDARDS EXTERNAL REQUIREMENT SIN 030411

     Fault-finders  are  often domineering people  looking
for  ways to gain an advantage over others who are weaker,
poorer and  more  vulnerable than the  fault-finders  are.
Sometimes fault-finders may be domineering people  probing
for points  of vulnerability in other  domineering  people
who are their equals in domination;  or perhaps, even more
domineering  than themselves.   Fault-finders who are  not
working within a well  defined discipline are likely to be
of  the above kinds.    The are not dedicated to promoting
personal and communal integrity;  but rather to some  form
of  self-advancement,    the nature of which  may  not  be
clear.    They are  rarely  truly  dedicated  to  personal
and  communal integrity.

     Well trained and well  disciplined  "quality-control"
specialists  are  "fault-finders"   of quite  a  different
temperament   and  character.     They  are  not motivated
by preoccupations  with  domination  and being  in control
of other  persons.    They are dedicated in gracious  ways
to   monitor    the  quality  of   some  products   and/or
relationships ---   to   facilitate appropriate efforts to
improve  the   quality    of  the  products  and/or    the
relationships.  They  are   often  dedicated  to  personal
and    communal  integrity  in  ways  which  merit  honor,
respect and praise.

     Sometimes  it  may be helpful to use a pattern  as  a
means  for getting out of a box which has constrained  our
thinking  and  our asking of questions.     The  following
suggests a  pattern in terms of which by choices of  items
on  a line or pair of lines;   may  be combined with  each
other,   to  yield a question which may be  outside  of  a
traditional box:

     Can, should, must, may, etc.

     We, you, I, others, the church, the state, etc.

     Control, command, dominate, permit, tolerate, etc.

                      People to:

     Be different,
      Feel differently,
       Think differently,
        Set priorities differently,
         Desire different kinds of pleasures/fulfillment,
          Have different goals,
           Affirm different/complementary ---
                  values, ideals, principles, perspective,
                  attitudes, virtues, kinds-of-reverence,
              Manage conformity,
               Demand conformity,
                Transcend conformity,
                 Subvert conformity,
                  Stereotype and label others,
                   Demand either/or answers to questions.

     When   is   it  intolerable  that  some  people   are
intolerant?  Who is to say?   Why?

     When is it tolerable that some people are  intolerant
of intolerant people?   Who is to say?   Why?

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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