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%SUGGEST POINT CLARIFY DIFFERENCE HEALTHY INTEGRATE+030326
%DESTRUCTIVE CLEAR ABSOLUTE TRUTH SYMPATHETIC DEVIL+030326
  %UNILATERAL CONTENTIOUS COOPERATIVE GRACIOUS GOOD+030326
 %CREATION DESCRIPTION OWNERSHIP EVALUATION DISCERN+030326
 %SCRIPT ROLE CONFORM OWNERSHIP CONTROL DEMAND LAWS+030326
 %AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIP CREATIVITY REVOLUTION GODS 030326

     The  following  is  an effort to  suggest  and  point
toward some differences between HEALTHY/INTEGRATIVE versus
UN-HEALTHY/DESTRUCTIVE  efforts.    Often the  differences
are not entirely clear.    The text only suggests what the
differences   may  be;   rather  than  defines  what   the
differences actually are.

     Items  in the center below connect the upper  entries
at   the left-and-right ---  to the lower entries at   the
left-and-right   ---   in ways which may be suggestive  to
people who are ready,   willing and able to be sympathetic
to  the diverse and contrasting  suggestions --- which may
be discerned here in gracious ways.


UN-HEALTHY/DESTRUCTIVE               HEALTHY/INTEGRATIVE
----------------------               -------------------
UNILATERAL and                       Cooperative and
CONTENTIOUS                          Gracious

                    Creations-of
                    Descriptions-of
                    Evaluations-of
                    Avoidances-of
                    Ownership-of

Scripts                             Interpretations
Role-assignments                    Relationships
Conformity-patterns                 Authentic-beings
Mission-assignments                 Discernments
Demands-for-results                 Suggestions
Labels-on-people                    Visions/Dreams
Permissions/Taboos                  Tolerance
Rituals/Formalities                 Creativity
Traditions                          Revolutions
Prescriptions                       Evolutions
Proscriptions                       Risks
Invulnerability                     Sanctuaries
Defenses                            True-security
Obedience                           Desires
Impressions                         Responses
Commandments                        Honest-dialogue

     Many  domineering  people  will  be  contentious   in
response   to  the  above  suggestions  ---   because  the
diverse  and  contrasting  suggestions  may  threaten  the
appearances of integrity  of "The Domination System" which
they idolize.

     We all need to beware of any person or persons who in
some  DOMINEERING  way contend that some other  person  or
persons  are so wrong,  evil or despicable ---  that  they
(the DOMINEERING people) are right,  good and honorable in
their     desire/intent   to   ignore   the   rights   and
denigrate/destroy the limited-integrities  and  desires of
those whom  the  DOMINEERING people have labeled as wrong,
evil  and/or  despicable.    To respect,     honor  and/or
support such DOMINEERING people is to  invite disaster ---
for such respect,    honor  and/or support undermines  the
work   of reconcilers,   healers and peacemakers ---   and
invites  all  DOMINEERING people to  try to DOMINATE  each
other   through   the  use  of dishonesty,  coercion   and
violence.     Chaos  is  the natural  result   of  showing
respect,  honor and/or support to such DOMINEERING people;
no   matter how "good"   their stated motives  and  ideals
may   be.    We can recognize them by the fruits  of their
alienative ways of relating to other people.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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