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 %CLARIFY ARTICULATE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN RESPONSIBLE 030227
 %HEALTHY HUMANE PEOPLE RELATIONSHIPS PERSONAL LOVE 030227
 %COMMUNAL INTEGRITIES DISEASED THREATEN RESIST GOD 030227
 %DOMINATION CONTROL FORCE OBEY LOYALTY LORDS KINGS 030227
 %BULLIES DICTATORS MASTER SERVANT SLAVERY SEPARATE 030227
  %COLLUSIVE DISHONEST GAMES MUTUAL SELF DECEPTIONS 030227

     How can responsible,  healthy and creative people who
are  working to promote personal & communal integrity  ---
best distinguish themselves from ---  irresponsible people
who are so dis-eased/diseased that they threaten  personal
and communal integrities?

     Distinguishing  themselves is not easy  ---   because
both kinds of people are bound to:

     1.  Resist  attempts   by   domineering   people   to
unilaterally  control  other  people;   i.e.,   trying  to
unilaterally  control:  actions,  appearances,   thoughts,
desires,  hopes,  expectations,  responses,   friendships,
writings, publications, etc.

     2.  Be   less   than   fully   open-and-honest   with
domineering  people  about their own  private:   thoughts,
insights, lives, hopes, plans, intentions and friendships.

     3.  Be unlikely  to  fit-in-well  in  any traditional
and/or conformity-oriented community.

     4.  Behave in unpredictable/surprising  ways  in many
circumstances ---  as seen from the point of view of  many
people  who  do  not fit-in-well in growing  and  changing
environments and humane communities.

     5.  Healthy   people   often   cause   dishonest  and
domineering  people  to feel insecure,  threatened  and/or
embarrassed.

     6.  Truly-healthy people  are often  misunderstood by
many apparently "normal"  people ---  and so truly-healthy
people   may  not  be  well  integrated  into   apparently
"normal" cooperative community efforts.

     The   truly-healthy-people  and   the   collusive-un-
healthy-people  are  ALIKE in the above  six  ways.    The
following  are six ways in which truly-healthy people  are
DIFFERENT from collusively-un-healthy people:

     1.  Healthy people are CREATIVE and seek  to  develop
NEW  WAYS  to deal with the threats and  challenges  which
they encounter.   They often promote changes which disturb
settled-people  and especially disturb  those  domineering
people who seek to be in control; dominant.

     2.  Healthy-people seek to be OPEN and HONEST --- and
so upset people who  are  just  the  opposite:  dishonest,
pretentious,    self-righteous,    arrogant,    addictive,
defensive, collusive and trying to protect "The Domination
System" --- so it will NOT BE EXPOSED to the light of open
and  honest dialogue;  e.g.,  by people  sharing  personal
experiences  and  perceptions  about  human  relationships
which are NOT-HEALTHY.

     3.  Healthy-people are honest about the  MANY FACTORS
which interact with each other in determining the outcomes
of human efforts to deal with complexity.  Healthy  people
are  honest  about the flaws within dichotomous  either/or
analyses   which  focus  exclusively  on   questions   of:
right/wrong, good/evil, true/false, friend/enemy and other
ways in which exclusive people polarize each other.

     4.  Healthy  people   are  not   willing   to   allow
domineering  people  to  dominate  and/or  control   them.
Neither are healthy  people willing to become  domineering
people  who try to dominate and/or control others.    They
refuse to play collusive games of  presuming that they can
be dominant and/or in control by over-powering others  who
are playing such dishonest games in various ways.

     5.  Healthy people  are  willing to let  go  of human
presumptions   of  invulnerability  and  transcendence  of
limitations.    Healthy people are willing to be open  and
honest about human limits,  limitations and healthy  forms
of vulnerability.   Thereby they upset and threaten people
who   are  arrogant,   self-righteous,   pretentious   and
unwilling  to  let go of their collusive games  of  mutual
self deception.

     6.  Unhealthy  people are unwilling and/or  unable to
deal  honestly  with  the  above  subtle  and  complicated
patters in human relationships.  So they see complex human
relationships  in  distorting  simplistic  terms --- which
promote   violent   conflicts  over   mutually   exclusive
positions taken by simplistic people who are unwilling  to
be honest about the complexity of their relationships.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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