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   %ACCEPTING INTERNALIZING INTROJECTING ASSUMPTION+021220
  %ATTITUDE SECURITY EQUALS INVULNERABILITY HONESTY+021220
 %ELIMINATION ABSENCE DEEP FRIENDSHIPS INTIMACY GOD+021220
%AUTHENTICITY LOVE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS CONTROL SIN+021220
 %DEVILS DOMINATION TECHNOCRATS ALONE TASK ORIENTED+021220
 %ALIENATE ESTRANGEMENT LONELY DISAPPOINT IGNORANCE 021220
                                                          
     Accepting and internalizing the                      
      assumption and attitude that "security              
       comes with the elimination of vulnerability" ---   
        leads naturally to the elimination of: honesty,   
         deep-friendships, intimacy, authenticity, love,  
          and meaningful sexual relationships --- for the 
           fact is that we cannot eliminate vulnerability 
            without eliminating: honesty, deep-friendship,
             intimacy, authenticity, love and meaningful  
              sexual relationships.                       
                                                          
     People who seek security through the elimination of  
      vulnerability naturally seek to be in control of    
       and/or dominant within all of their personal       
        relationships --- so that they will not be        
         vulnerable to other participants within          
          their relationships.  Security is to            
           be achieved through technical means            
            over which they as  isolated-ones             
             can alone be-in-control.   The               
              task which  they must attend                
               to is to plan-fully  how                   
                to defend-themselves                      
                 against all-risks                        
                  and be ever on                          
                   guard to do                            
                    whatever                              
                     must be                              
                      done                                
                       to                                 
                       be                                 
                       ok                                 
                       as                                 
                       1.                                 
                                                          
     The natural bitter fruit of the above way            
      of trying to achieve-security is always:            
       alienation, estrangement, loneliness,              
        disappointment, ignorance, bias,                  
         prejudice, misunderstanding,                     
          meaninglessness, anxiety,                       
           fear, defensiveness,                           
            and dishonesty.                               
                                                          
              True security involves                      
               prudent levels of                          
                vulnerability                             
                 within loving                            
                  relations of                            
                   honesty and                            
                    balanced                              
                     sharing.                             
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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