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 %HEAP-OF-VICTIMS DOMINATION SYSTEM DOMINEERING SIN+021217
 %PERVASIVE ALIENATION ESTRANGEMENT FOUNDATIONS GOD+021217
  %OBJECTIONS COMPLAINTS NOT LEGITIMATE INTEGRATIVE+021217
  %PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITY DIFFERENCE CONFLICTS+021217
 %HIDDEN SECRET PRETENTION HUMILITY HIDE RESOLUTION+021217
 %SEEK COLLUSIVE GAMES MUTUAL SELF DECEPTION LOVERS 021217
                                                          
    Whenever  "The  Domination  System"  is pervasive in a
community ---  it is often difficult and sometimes  it  is
impossible  to  discern what are the real  foundations  of
domineering    people's   objections   to   each   other's
complaints.                                               
                                                          
     Some  complaints  are  legitimate  and  founded  upon
concerns  about  real  threats to  personal  and  communal
integrity.  Other complaints are NOT legitimate,  and  NOT
founded  upon concerns about real threats to personal  and
communal integrity.                                       
                                                          
     The  differences  between the contrasting  complaints
are   often  hidden  by   collusive-games-of-mutulal-self-
deception.   The  differences  can  be discerned  only  by
uncovering what is  hidden; by seeing-through whatever may
be  the  pretentions  of  collusive-games-of-mutulal-self-
deception.                                                
                                                          
     The   players   of   collusive-games-of-mutulal-self-
deception  will,   of  course,   OBJECT  to  having  their
pretentions  exposed;   and will seek to  dominate/control
honest people who are seeking to liberate victims of  such
pretentious games  of  hide-and-seek  between  domineering
people and lovers.   Lovers need in such circumstances  to
find ways to transcend compulsive tendencies of humans  to
turn  every  relationship into a contest over who will  be
dominant/in-control, &  who will be victimized/submissive.
Lovers  need to demonstrate that all participants in  such
contests can become winners by transcending the  contests;
rather than by trying to win over others in the contests. 
GETTING  TO  YES can be better than GETTING TO THE TOP  of
the heap-of-victims.                                      
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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