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 %LOVERS TOLERANCE VIRTUES VICES DOMINEERING HABITS+021202
 %DOMINATION SYSTEM SYSTEMIC PROBLEMS DILEMMAS SINS+021202
%THREATS TOLERANCE CREATIVITY HONESTY INCLUSIVENESS+021202
%INITIATIVE AUTHENTICITY BALANCE IMAGINATION GENTLE 021202
                                                          
     Why  is  it that lovers usually view tolerance  as  a
virtue --- while domineering supporters of "The Domination
System" usually view tolerance as a vice?  This is part of
a  pattern  as indicated below.   Listed are human  traits
which  are  viewed  as virtues by lovers,  but  which  are
regarded as vices/threats by domineering people:          
                                                          
     TOLERANCE          CREATIVITY           HONESTY      
     INCLUSIVENESS      INITIATIVES          AUTHENTICITY 
     BALANCE            IMAGINATION          GENTLENESS   
                                                          
     The  pattern flows from the great  contrasts  between
the motivations of lovers who seek to promote integration,
and  "The Domination System"  which is committed to  being
IN-CONTROL.   Lovers  are  committed  to  facilitating and
promoting both personal and  communal  forms of integrity.
Domineering people seek to promote conformity,  stability,
controls,  laws and orders -- which facilitate their being
IN-CONTROL.                                               
                                                          
     Lovers    and  domineering  people   have   different
attitudes    and   views  of  discretion,    alternatives,
complementary-options, freedoms-to-choose, etc.           
                                                          
     LOVERS AS PEOPLE    ARE    sympathetic to  permitting
people  to  exercise  extensive  freedoms  in  exercising-
discretion,   selecting-alternatives    and    considering
complementary-options  ---  within broad guidelines  which
are clearly not: mandates,  prescriptions,  proscriptions,
demands and/or dichotomous commandments.                  
                                                          
     DOMINEERING PEOPLE are NOT  sympathetic to permitting
people  to  exercise  extensive  freedoms  in  exercising-
discretion,    selecting-alternatives    and   considering
complementary-options  ---  within broad guidelines  which
are clearly NOT: mandates,  prescriptions,  proscriptions,
demands  and/or  dichotomous  commandments.               
                                                          
     DOMINEERING  PEOPLE are not sympathetic to permissive
patterns of behavior ---  because permissive  patterns  of
behavior do not provide "hooks"  with which to manipulate,
dominate and control more vulnerable people.   This is not
to  say  that  it  is simple to  discern  the  differences
between  the  motivations of DOMINEERING  PEOPLE  and  the
motivations of true lovers.    Sometimes those differences
are obscure, because they have been obscured by people who
prefer  that  they not be generally recognized  and talked
about.                                                    
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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