This is http://www.essayz.com/b0210151.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %UNCONDITIONAL LOVE BALANCED MUTUAL FAVORABLE GOD+021015 %PRECONDITIONS HATE ANGER RAGE REVENGE RETALIATE+021015 %POSSIBLE RECONCILIATION HEALING INSIGHT DISCERNED+021015 %TRUTHFUL TELLING LISTENING DIALOGUE ARTICULATION+021015 %VULNERABILITY SANCTUARIES SAFETY SAFELY TOGETHER 021015 What are THE CONDITIONS under which UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is possible? 1. Two or more people must have come to the balanced and mutual understanding --- that under some very favorable conditions --- their relationships may include the real possibility of them together --- being truly/openly free to trust each other so fully, that there is no need to hold back trust because of further conditions being desired, or imposed from outside. 2. The above clearly entails the acceptance of a paradox; i.e, the acceptance of the POSSIBILITY that there CAN BE conditions under which there need be no further conditions held in reserve in order to be secure. 3. The above PRECONDITIONS for UNCONDITIONAL LOVE cannot be met by people who are conditioned by "The Domination System" being locally supported by faithful servants who believe that security can be enjoyed only through domination and the elimination of their own vulnerability. 4. Two or more people must be together in the SPIRIT --- understanding that they can transcend & subvert any spirit which demands that they believe --- that under no conditions is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ever possible --- because of logical facts, or because of imposed external conditions. 5. Two or more people must understand and agree that they have the power to understand & transcend the spirit which commands that they NOT UNDERSTAND or subvert its commandments that they NOT BE together in the security of God-in-Love. 6. The above PRECONDITIONS for UNCONDITIONAL LOVE entail the condition that two or more people violate the tacit/un-articulated commandments of "The Domination System" --- which say that IT does not exist, IT'S rules do not exist, ITS threats do not exist, ITS collusive games of mutual self deception do not exist, and its ADDICTS & CODEPENDENT SUPPORTERS are NOT faithfully in IT'S SERVICE. 7. Liberated lovers understand and talk about how "The Domination System" subverts unconditional Love in order to protect itself against revelations of dishonesty, coercion and violence by --- UNCONDITIONED LOVE. We need to be clear about and remember that we cannot acquire, own or achieve unconditional love in a unilateral way. Unconditional love can be enjoyed only by lovers who cooperate and together meet the conditions for unconditional trust. Unconditional love is not about personal rights. It is about exchanging gifts of the freedom to be safely vulnerable within generously build communal sanctuaries wherein people are regularly hospitable and civil. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================