This is http://www.essayz.com/b0210112.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %ESSENTIAL DIFFERENCE FOUNDATIONS PERSONAL COMMUNAL+021011 %INTEGRITIES DOMINEERING DOMINATION SYSTEM LOVERS+021011 %LEADERS FOLLOWERS OPEN HONEST SYMPATHETIC GENTLE+021011 %TOLERATE TOLERANCE SPECTRUM DICHOTOMOUS DEVILS SIN+021011 %INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP INDIVIDUALS RESOLVE GOD+021011 %PEACEMAKERS WAR CONFLICT VIOLENCE CONFORMITY GOODS 021011 What are some of the essential differences between domineering people and true-lovers --- which lead to the different outcomes of their different ways of dealing with their differences? 1. Lovers are more open and honest with different people --- than domineering people are. 2. Lovers are more sympathetic and gentle with different people --- than domineering people are. 3. Lovers tolerate a wider range of creative and integrative innovations --- than domineering people do. 4. Lovers focus more upon inter-personal relation- ships, than upon individuals --- whereas domineering people focus more upon individuals, than upon inter- personal relationships. 5. Lovers work to resolve conflicts between/among: ideas, ideals, values, principles, policies and people --- whereas domineering people work to dominate/control other people and their: possessions, ideas, ideals, values, principles, policies, relationships, emotions, thoughts, fears, desires, hopes, behaviors and communications. 6. Lovers seek to facilitate the evolution of well- integrated communities within which different people demonstrate both personal and communal integrities of many kinds --- while sharing with each other free gifts of the freedom to be safely vulnerable in intimate relationships --- whereas domineering people seek to force people to conform to domineering people's demands. 7. Lovers facilitate and promote personal reconciliations and voluntary cooperation --- whereas domineering people seek to impose patterns of conformity upon other people who are: poorer, weaker, less powerful and more vulnerable than the domineering people are. 8. Lovers deal openly and honestly with full spectrums of possibilities --- whereas domineering people demand that possibilities be limited to dichotomous patterns of: either/or, good/evil, yes/no, right/wrong, saved/dammed, accepted/rejected, included/excluded, welcomed/excommunicated, perfect/defective, rewarded and/or punished. 9. Lovers OPENLY AND HONESTLY SHARE WITH EACH OTHER their: desires, perceptions, hopes, aspirations, fears, experiences, understandings, beliefs, convictions, emotions, visions, fantasies, intentions, disappointments, and loves -- whereas domineering people try to IMPOSE UPON EACH OTHER their own: desires, perceptions, hopes, aspirations, fears, experiences, understandings, beliefs, convictions, emotions, visions, fantasies, intentions, and disappointments. 10. Lovers work as peace-makers in cooperative relationships with different/complementary lovers --- whereas domineering people work to be dominant and/or in control over different/threatening people within adversarial relationships. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================