This is http://www.essayz.com/b0209261.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DISEASED RELATIONSHIPS ISOLATED OBJECTS PLACES SIN+020926 %IDEAS IDEALS IMAGES DESIRES VISIONS PEOPLE GROUPS+020926 %INSTITUTIONS STATES NATIONS CITIES DEFECTIVE SELF+020926 %DYSFUNCTIONAL UNHEALTHY ABSENCES DOMINATION SYSTEM+020926 %ESSENTIAL FOUNDATIONS PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITY+020926 %BOUNDARIES NARCISSISM EGOCENTRIC DISHONESTY DEVILS 020926 Whenever we encounter any form of evil we need to focus our attention at least as much upon our DISEASED- RELATIONSHIPS as upon ISOLATED: objects, places, ideas, ideals, images, desires, visions, people, groups of people, institutions, etc. "Evil" is a word which points to defective aspects of DISEASED-RELATIONSHIPS --- more than it points to defective aspects of ISOLATED "things" such as those named just above. In what ways are evil-relationships defective? What aspects of healthy-relationships are absent from evil- relationships? What aspects which are dominant in evil- relationships, are rarely present in healthy- relationships? ============================ ============================= Present in Healthy-Relations Absent from Healthy Relations Absent from Evil-Relations Present in Evil-Relationships ============================ ============================= Respect for boundaries Invasions of private spaces Respect for privacy rights Violations of privacy rights Integration and Integrity Destructions/Disintegrations Positive affirmations Negativity/Denigrations Affirmations of creativity Denigrations of creativity Openness and honesty Secrecy and pretentiousness Sanctuaries and dialogue Unilateral demands/commands Safe forms of vulnerability Defensive "invulnerability" Security in cooperation Pretentious security efforts Forgiveness & reconciliation Grudges-retaliations-revenge Reconciliation and healing Excommunications & rejections Humility and gentleness Arrogance and coercion Role-modeling health/service Mandating forms of conformity Generosity and sharing Greed and hoarding Balanced mutual respect Extremism and unilateralism Civility and hospitality Contentiousness & exclusivity Listening & true fellowship Preaching & pretentious unity Clarity about complexities Pretentious simplifications Invitations and hospitality Mandates and management Generous sharing of power Concentrations of power Transcending differences Accentuating differences Power to cooperate-with Power to dominate-over Peacemaking & healing War-preparations Conflict-resolution Conflict-maintenance Transcending evil-relations Accentuating evil-relations Honest systems-analysis Making/focusing upon labels Prudent/wise risk taking Blaming, shaming, guilting Cleaning up messes Blaming and scape-goating Humility & gentleness Arrogance and meanness Right-relationships Self-righteousness Love and grace Egotism and narcissism (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================