This is http://www.essayz.com/b0208192.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %LOVERS FACILITATE LOVE INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS GOD+020819 %FOCUS PRIORITIES DICTATORS DOMINATION SYSTEM EVIL+020819 %ABUSE TOOLS MANIPULATION CONTROL HEALING CIVILITY+020819 %CONTRASTING PEOPLE LIES DISHONESTY WAYS LIFE GOOD+020819 %LIBERATION USEFUL IMPRISONMENT HEALING INTEGRITY+020819 %COLLUSIVE SANCTUARIES CONTENTIOUS CONFLICTS WARS 020819 LOVERS FACILITATE LOVE AND INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS. DICTATORS USE TOOLS TO ACCUMULATE MORE POWER AND WEALTH. READ EACH COLUMN DOWNWARD READ EACH COLUMN DOWNWARD THE TOP THREE HEADINGS APPLY TO WORDS/PHRASES BELOW THEM LOVERS FOCUS UPON: DICTATORS FOCUS UPON: LOVERS FACILITATE/PROMOTE: DICTATORS FACILITATE/PROMOTE: LOVERS SEEK TO FULFILL: DICTATORS USE/ABUSE: HEALING USEFUL DIS-EASES COOPERATION USEFUL UNILATERAL-ACTIONS CIVILITY USEFUL UNILATERAL-CONTROLS LIBERATION USEFUL IMPRISONMENTS SANCTUARIES USEFUL PRISONS RECONCILIATION USEFUL ALIENATION/ESTRANGEMENT PEACEMAKING USEFUL CONQUESTS GENTLENESS USEFUL VIOLENCE CONFLICT-RESOLUTION USEFUL COERCION HOSPITALITY USEFUL ATTACKS DIALOGUE USEFUL DICTATES HONESTY USEFUL DIS-HONESTY REVELATIONS USEFUL COLLUSIONS GENEROSITY USEFUL GREED SPECTRUMS USEFUL DICHOTOMIES INVITATIONS USEFUL COMMANDMENTS LOVE USEFUL LAWS FORGIVENESS USEFUL RESENTMENT KINDNESS USEFUL ANGER SHALOM USEFUL RAGE AUTHENTICITY USEFUL AUTHORITIES ROLE-MODELS USEFUL RULES/REGULATIONS PATHS/WAYS USEFUL BOUNDARIES POSSIBILITIES USEFUL LIMITATIONS DESIRES/NEEDS USEFUL PERMISSIONS VISIONS/DREAMS USEFUL TRADITIONS/HABITS LIBERTY USEFUL PROHIBITIONS HOPES USEFUL FEARS/ANXIETIES SPONTANEITY USEFUL CONFORMITY CREATIVITY USEFUL FORMALITIES INITIATIVES USEFUL COMMANDMENTS INCLUSIVITY USEFUL EXCLUSIVITY ACCEPTANCE USEFUL REJECTION CONVERSATIONS USEFUL EXCOMMUNICATIONS DIALOGUE USEFUL VULNERABILITY FELLOWSHIP USEFUL ISOLATION BALANCED-LISTENING USEFUL TABOOS BALANCED-FRIENDSHIPS USEFUL ENMITY AUTHENTIC-TRUST USEFUL SUSPICION SAFE-VULNERABILITY USEFUL INVULNERABILITY HEALTHY-INTIMACY USEFUL DEFENSIVENESS GRACEFUL-FLEXIBILITY USEFUL RIGIDITY EVOLUTION USEFUL PERMANENCE HONEST-SERVICE USEFUL POWER MATURE-HUMILITY USEFUL ARROGANCE RIGHT-RELATIONSHIPS USEFUL SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS REFLEXIVE-RELATIONSHIPS USEFUL OBJECTIVE-CONTROLS The word "USEFUL" in the right column connotes efforts to fulfill some: fantasy, plan, political-goal, desire, vision, dream, intention, etc., --- to satisfy someone who is acting-out a role of a unilateral dictator. In each personal relationship we need to seek to discern which participants are illustrating which of the above --- with what kinds of understanding, intentions and consequences to us and to those who play major roles in our lives. What are the central characteristics of each of our relationships with the other participants in our diverse kinds of relationships? How can we contribute to making creative/helpful changes in such central characteristics? With whom else can we most creatively/helpfully cooperate in gracious ways? (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================