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    %PERMISSIBLE ACCEPTABLE APPROVED RESPECTED LOVE+020712
       %DIFFERENCES HEREDITY HERITAGE BIRTH GENETIC+020712
      %GRANDPARENTS RACE CULTURE RELIGION WORKPLACE 020712
                                                          
     Domineering  people find it difficult to  accept  and
work  with people who are "different".   In the  views  of
domineering people,  those who are "different" have a duty
to conform to what the domineering people say is right.   
                                                          
     It is the expectations of the domineering people that
must be "fulfilled".   In the views of domineering  people
"different" people do not have any right to be "different"
just  because  they were born with "different":   parents,
skin-color,   genetic-codes,   and  heritages  related  to
national-origin,   music,   art,  culture,  and  religious
beliefs.                                                  
                                                          
     Do   domineering   people   have  a   right   to   be
"domineering",  "manipulators", "controllers", "arrogant",
"self-righteous",   "coercive"  &  "violent"?    Who  gave
domineering  people such "rights"?    Who  volunteered  to
support such "rights"?                                    
                                                          
     What  can  be done about domineering people  claiming
that  they  have  such "rights";  without in  the  process
claiming for oneself such "rights" which other "different"
people  should  NOT have?    How can we end the  cycle  of
violence without joining in creating additional cycles  of
violence?     How can we resist violence  while  remaining
non-violent  in our efforts to resist violence.   Who  has
shown the way,  the thought patterns,  the attitudes,  and
the  patterns of understanding/subversion which have  been
successful   in  resisting  violence  without   augmenting
further violence?   Can people who have traditionally been
violent learn how to cooperate in the absence of violence?
Are there people who were previously violent,  who are now
living  peacefully  with each other  in  civil/cooperative
neighborhoods?   Where are they?                          
                                                          
     If  we accept the notion that some domineering people
should  have  the  right to  demand/require  that  certain
"different"  people change or be eliminated ---  the stage
is  thereby  set  for endless  violent  conflicts  between
different  domineering peoples.   We need to have criteria
which transcend mere "differences" in deciding which kinds
of inter-personal RELATIONSHIPS merit our respect,   honor
and support;  and which do not.   For our various kinds of
integrities  to  survive --- we need to  respect,    honor
and support RELATIONSHIPS characterized by:               
                                                          
     HONESTY          OPENNESS        AUTHENTICITY        
                                                          
     CLARITY          TRANSPARENCY    MUTUALITY           
                                                          
     BALANCE          COOPERATION     COHERENCE           
                                                          
     INTEGRATION      INTEGRITY       HEALTH              
                                                          
     CIVILITY         HOSPITALITY     SHALOM              
                                                          
     TOLERANCE        CREATIVITY      SPONTANEITY         
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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