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%UNILATERALLY SETTING RELATIONSHIP GOALS FAMILY SEX+020518
%SELF OTHER DOUBLE BIND TRAP PRISON APPROACH TRAGIC+020518
%DYSFUNCTIONAL ADDICTIVE CODEPENDENT COLLUSIONS SIN 020518
                                                          
     It is good to have goals and to work to achieve      
       goals.  However, we need to be cautious about how  
         we approach goals which have to do with our human
           relationships.  Unilaterally set goals often   
             trap us in dysfunctional relationships with  
               others who have been cast into supporting  
                 roles which must be fulfilled for us to  
                   reach our own unilaterally set goals.  
                                                          
     When we have cast ourselves into such dysfunctional  
       relationships by unilaterally setting relationship 
         goals --- we are unlikely to be ready, willing,  
           and able to work cooperatively with those whom 
             we have victimized by unilaterally casting   
               them into supportive roles.  We are not    
                 likely to learn from our mistake of      
                   having behaved unilaterally; and       
                     are likely to continue to act        
                       unilaterally in our effort         
                         to get out of the trap           
                           we unilaterally made           
                             for ourselves and            
                               for others who             
                                 are victims              
                                   with us.               
                                     Sad!                 
                                      So?                 
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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