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   %HELPFULLY DISTINGUISH HEALTHY BELIEF CONVICTION+020506
    %EXPRESSION COMMUNICATION FREEDOM SPEECH RIGHTS+020506
   %DYSFUNCTIONAL DOMINEERING DESTRUCTIVE FEAR SINS+020506
   %DISHONESTY DECEPTION COLLUSIONS ADDICTIONS EVIL+020506
   %SELFRIGHTEOUS ARROGANCE INSOLENCE PRIDE DISDAIN+020506
     %HUMILITY GENTLE GRACE GENEROSITY KINDNESS GOD 020506
                                                          
     How are we to helpfully distinguish between:         
                                                          
     1.  Healthy beliefs and convictions which are        
           expressed in helpful/healthy ways,  and        
                                                          
     2.  Dysfunctional beliefs and convictions which are  
           expressed in domineering/destructive ways?     
                                                          
     Consider the following hints/pointers regarding      
       some distinguishing features of the two            
         kinds of behaviors:                              
                                                          
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     Healthy beliefs and convictions are usually NOT      
       associated with PERVERSE PATTERNS OF FEARFUL:      
                                                          
           Motivations which are NOT-well-grounded.       
                                                          
           Dishonesty, deception, collusions & addictions.
                                                          
           Repression, suppression and punishments.       
                                                          
           Self-righteousness, arrogance, pride & disdain.
                                                          
           Insolence, haughtiness and pretentiousness.    
                                                          
           Manipulations, controls and technologies.      
                                                          
           Intolerance, domination & coercion.            
                                                          
           <=> Dysfunctional beliefs and convictions      
           are often associated with AUGMENTING the above 
           kinds of: FEARFUL PERVASIVE PATTERNS.          
                                                          
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     Healthy beliefs and convictions ARE often associated 
     with PERVASIVE INTEGRATIVE PATTERNS OF GRACIOUS:     
                                                          
           Motivations which ARE-well-grounded-in-Love.   
                                                          
           Honesty-descriptions, tolerance and healing.   
                                                          
           Liberations, elicitations and clarifications.  
                                                          
           Right-relationships, humility and service.     
                                                          
           Respect, balance, appreciation & equilibrium.  
                                                          
           Cooperation, teamwork, synergy & collaboration.
                                                          
           Partnerships, constructions & elucidations.    
                                                          
           Clarifications, revelations & mutuality.       
                                                          
           <=> Dysfunctional beliefs and convictions      
           are often associated with UNDERMINING the above
           PERVASIVE INTEGRATIVE PATTERNS OF GRACIOUS WAYS
           OF BEING TOGETHER within sanctuary communities.
                                                          
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          We are unable to helpfully distinguish between  
     healthy and unhealthy patterns of behavior --- so    
     long as we do not recognize, describe, and publicly  
     talk about the whys and ways in which unhealthy      
     people engage in:                                    
                                                          
           1.  Collusive games of mutual self deception,  
               dominated by dishonesty.                   
                                                          
           2.  Addictive games of mutual self deception,  
               dominated by dishonesty.                   
                                                          
           3.  Codependent support of self deception,     
               dominated by dishonesty.                   
                                                          
           4.  Contests over issues of control,           
               dominated by dishonesty.                   
                                                          
           5.  Manipulations of appearances of people,    
               dominated by dishonesty.                   
                                                          
           6.  Manipulations of appearances of "goods",   
               dominated by dishonesty.                   
                                                          
           7.  Manipulations of appearances of "evils",   
               dominated by dishonesty.                   
                                                          
           8.  Manipulations of appearances of controls,  
               dominated by dishonesty.                   
                                                          
           9.  Manipulations of appearances of violence,  
               dominated by dishonesty.                   
                                                          
          10.  Manipulations of appearances of religions, 
               dominated by dishonesty.                   
                                                          
          When we fight disintegratively over absolute    
      truths, we are probably being dominated by patterns 
      of dishonest behaviors.    It is time to be honest! 
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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