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  %KINDS LEVELS EXTREMES PERSONAL INTIMACY MEETINGS+000718
%BEINGS TOGETHER OPEN HONEST DIALOGUE SEXUALITY GOD+000718
%FRIENDSHIPS SHARING MUTUALITY PERSONAL STORIES SIN+000718
%CONFESSIONS RECONCILIATION PEACEMAKERS LOVERS EVIL+000718
%COOPERATION CONTENTION CONFLICT BATTLES WARS GOODS+000718
  %DOMINATION SYSTEM COLLUSIONS ADDICTIONS CODEPEND 000718
                                                          
     There  are many kinds/levels of personal intimacy  in
human  relationships.   While it is not possible to  reach
general agreement about any rank/ordering or hierarchy  as
regards the many kinds/levels of personal intimacy --- the
following  texts are  indicative  of the ways  some people
might place them in a suggestive order:                   
                                                          
     1.  Perpetual engagement in disintegrative conflicts,
misunderstandings and contests.                           
                                                          
     2.  Engagement in collusions, addictions and attempts
to achieve dominance over each other.                     
                                                          
     3.  Engagement   in  competition  over   territories,
resources, and sexual "rights".                           
                                                          
     4.  Avoidance  of mutual presence,   eye-contact  and
communications.                                           
                                                          
     5.  Support of the provincial "Domination System"  by
promoting/demanding  the above kinds of relationships  ---
and  undermining/forbidding moving  toward  the  following
kinds of relationships.                                   
                                                          
     6.  Honestly   considering  and  talking  about   the
mutual  advantages   of  balanced conflict resolution  and
gracious peacemaking.                                     
                                                          
     7.  Talking PRIVATELY with suspected strangers  about
the  mutual advantages of balanced-conflict-resolution and
gracious peacemaking.                                     
                                                          
     8.  Talking PUBLICLY  with suspected  strangers about
the  mutual advantages of balanced-conflict-resolution and
gracious peacemaking.                                     
                                                          
     9.  PUBLICLY advocating  the advantages  of balanced-
conflict-resolution and gracious peacemaking.             
                                                          
     10. Forming  private and public coalitions which  are
dedicated  to  balanced-conflict-resolution  and  gracious
peacemaking.                                              
                                                          
     11. Engaging  in private and/or public  eye-contacts,
discussions  and/or  tokens  of  physical  affection which
suggest that deeper levels of intimacy are possible and/or
desired.                                                  
                                                          
     12. Letting  one-self be vulnerable in private and/or
in public in the sharing of personal experiences, stories,
dreams,  desires,  hopes,  visions,  aspirations;   fears,
anxieties, doubts, etc.                                   
                                                          
     13. Becoming  involved in mutual/balanced  courtship,
wooing, and/or romantic relationships.                    
                                                          
     14. Becoming  involved  in     mutual and/or balanced
encouragement of sexual desires,  excitement, stimulation,
and physical intimacy.                                    
                                                          
     15. Making   public commitments to long-term mutually
supportive and intimate personal relationships --- wherein
personal security is enjoyed through the exchange of gifts
of  the freedom to be safely vulnerable in open and honest
dialogue through many open channels of communication.     
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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