This is http://www.essayz.com/b0003121.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %INCOMPATIBLE REQUIREMENT DOMINATION SYSTEM BALANCE+000312 %HUMANE RELATIONS HEALTHY OPEN HONEST PLEASURE LOVE+000312 %KNOWLEDGE SELF OTHER COOPERATE VICTIM COERCION SIN+000312 %COERCION SECRECY DISHONEST TECHNICAL PLANS POORER+000312 %VULNERABLE SECURITY DEFENSE WIN LOSE BATTLE EVILS 000312 There are inherent incompatibilities between what is required to support "The Domination System" and what is required to participate in human relationships which are healthy, open, honest, pleasure-full, balanced, mutual and integrative: 1. Pleasure comes from open and honest sharing knowledge of what pleases self and other --- doing so in ways which are mutual, balanced, and cooperative. 2. Successful domination entails coercion, secrecy, manipulations, violence, and dishonesty --- which virtually never please the victims of domination. - - - - - 3. Pleasure comes from open and honest sharing of personal desires, hopes, aspirations, visions, intentions, insights, perceptions and plans. 4. Successful domination is impossible when one is open and honest about the: desires, hopes, aspirations, visions, intentions, insights, perceptions and plans --- which are inherent in successfully dominating people who are: insecure, fearfully-vulnerable, poorer, weaker, sicker, hungrier, thirstier, victimized, etc. - - - - - 5. Personal and communal integrity require open and honest dialogue which is balanced and mutual --- pertaining to what pleases self and other working together in cooperative ventures mutually agreed upon and for mutual and just WIN-WIN advantages. 6. Successful domination requires secretive and dishonest planning which is unbalanced and unfair --- pertaining to the concentration of power and advantages --- through contentious conflicts with outcomes which displease those who through suffering and loss pay for the increased advantages of the supporters of "The Domination System". - - - - - 7. Reconciliation, healing, and integration require honesty and openness on the part of people who have: made- mistakes, blundered, been-mislead, misled-others, been coercive, condemned-others, been-prejudicial, been un- just, excommunicated-themselves/others, etc. 8. Successful domination requires frequent indifference to others': dis-eases, pains, suffering, losses, impotence, embarrassments, objections, alienation, confusion, humiliations, and being-excluded. _ _ _ _ _ 9. Love requires sensitivity-to, sympathy-for, and helpful responses to others': dis-eases, pains, suffering, losses, impotence, embarrassments, objections, alienation, confusion, humiliations, and being-excluded. 10. Successful domination requires taking effective advantage of each other's: dis-eases, pains, suffering, losses, impotence, embarrassments, objections, alienation, confusion, humiliations, and being-excluded. So long we are unaware of the contrasts between the requirements for successful domination and for personal and communal integration --- so long we are likely to be victims of our efforts to successfully dominate others who are trying to be successfully dominant at our expense. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================