This is http://www.essayz.com/b0002181.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SUPPORTERS DOMINATION SYSTEM NORMAL HEALTHY LOVE+000218 %RELATIONSHIPS INTIMACY SEXUALITY LOGIC REASON SIN+000218 %SECURITY INVULNERABILITY RATIONALIZATION MORALITY+000218 %ARROGANCE ADDICTION CONTROL DISHONESTY DEPEND GOD+000218 %IDOLATRY RELIGIOUS LEADERSHIP WIN LOSER DEFEATED 000218 To the extent that we are supporters of "The Domination System" --- it is impossible for us to enter into normal and healthy personal relationships with other persons who are both normal and healthy. The logic of being a supporter of "The Domination System" is completely "at odds" with the "logic" of being involved in personal relationships which are both normal and healthy: "Normal and Healthy" "The Domination System" ==================== ======================= Safe while vulnerable Safety via invulnerability. Fulfillment in sharing Fulfillment via controls Seeking mutuality Seeking complete dominance Openness and honesty Secretive and deceptive Free-sanctuary gifts Costly defenses maintained Daily reconciliation Fearful of reconciliation Creative variety Uniform conformity formula Spontaneous responses Formal prescriptions/ways Respect and tolerance Criticism of imperfections Open and honest desires Calculated appearances/views Humility & meekness Arrogance and certainty Humble service Self-righteous demands Interdependence Independence & dependence Balance mutuality Extreme oppositions Cooperation Contentiousness Sharing power Concentrations of power Intimate dialogue Success and failure Shared resources Concentration of resources Joyful fellowship Deadly defenses/security Open communications Control of communications Liberation and healing Requirements with diseases Being together Being right, proper, "good" Enjoying each other Controlling each other Being in Love Being properly righteous Being truly together Being superior and best Cooperation Winning in competition WIN-WIN relationships Defeating competitors Supporting the weak Being fearful of the weak Respect for the poor Disrespect for the poor Freedom from fear Addictive preoccupations Peace-makers Military preoccupations Conflict-resolutions Preparing for wars Clear descriptions Confusing prescriptions Free associations Mandatory conscriptions Mutual advantages Unilateral advantages Confident friendships Suspicious associations Those people who see the world and themselves through the glasses of domination and submission --- cannot understand, appreciate or desire to be involved in open and honest relationships --- with people who are normal, healthy, spontaneous, responsive, creative, growing and free of compulsive constraints. Dominant people's understandings and visions are limited. Their hopes and aspirations are constrained. They are fearful in their certainty. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================