This is http://www.essayz.com/a9810091.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONFLICT TRANSCENDENCE RESOLUTION MAINTAIN PROMOTE+981009 %ARTICULATE VALUES MEANS METHODS WAYS ATTITUDE EVIL+981009 %INVITE CLARITY PUBLIC PRIVATE EXPLANATION HARMED+981009 %CONCERNS FEARS ANXIETY RESENTMENT ANGER THREATENED+981009 %AVOID DESTROY OVERCOME DEFEAT WIN REPRESS SUPPRESS 981009 How are we to help mitigate, minimize, transcend and resolve destructive conflicts? 1. Articulate our own ideals, values, principles, goals, attitudes and priorities clearly---so people can know what to expect of us: Conflict promotion? Conflict maintenance? Conflict to the death? Conflict mitigation? Conflict resolution? 2. Articulate what means, methods, procedures and technologies we regard as being incompatible with the above articulated aspects of our being who we are: Murder, rape, abuse, dishonesty, misleading statements, deception, secrecy, pretense, arrogance, self-righteousness, coercion, violence, compromise, synthesis, peace-making, conflict resolution. 3. Ask our adversaries to join us in the above two articulations --- doing so for themselves as we have done for ourselves --- so that bystanders know where we stand and what they can expect of us --- as regards their own personal and communal integrity. 4. Seek to paraphrase in our own languages what we have heard each other articulate --- and ask for clarifications where each other cannot agree to the respective paraphrases. 5. Repeat the articulation and paraphrase pair of steps----until we can agree with each other's paraphrases. 6. Articulate in similar manner our respective concerns, fears, anxieties, complaints, resentments, etc. --- which seem to each of us to have to do with each other. 7. Paraphrase in a similar, manner our respective understandings of each other's fears, anxieties, complaints, resentments, etc. 8. Seek confirmations and/or clarifications of paraphrases in a cyclic process until there is mutual understanding of each other's fears, anxieties, complaints, resentments, etc. 9. Seek to articulate our own and each other's sense of the incongruities among the above articulations and paraphrases. 10. Seek to GET TO YES in conflict resolution--- based upon the understandings achieved by the above processes. 11. Recognize and help bystanders to recognize those contentious among us who are unwilling to participate in good faith in efforts to mitigate, minimize, transcend and resolve destructive conflicts. Help all to work to avoid being drawn into conflicts with contentious people, and thereby to avoid becoming like them in seeking to overcome them. 12. Make clean that we are dedicated and acting in ways to transcend conflicts and resolve conflicts in manners which will be beneficial to all victims of conflicts ---making clear that we do not wish to engage in adversarial relationships; and demonstrate a commitment to understand those who approach us in adversarial ways, so that we can respond openly and honestly to whatever is troubling them. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================