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%FEW WINNERS MANY LOSERS CONSTANT CONFLICT VIOLENCE+980727           
%ARROGANT SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS JUDGEMENT CONDEMNATION+980727       
%ALIENATION EXCOMMUNICATION REJECTION EXCLUSION SIN 980727                       
                                                                                                                               
     History  is  full of account of occasions  when  many               
people have  persisted in dealing with each other in  ways      
which lead to few winners and many losers on both sides of               
many battles.               
                                                                                                                               
     Instead    of   finding   ways   to   work   together      
cooperatively ---  people work tirelessly  to find grounds                                                                    
for criticizing, judging and excluding each other.    They                       
function in  terms  of  an economy  of scarcity of:  love,                                           
acceptance,    affection,    understanding,     mutuality,         
inclusion, affirmation, cooperation, etc.                                                                                      
                                                                                                                               
     Instead  of  finding  in each  other's  complementary                                                               
affirmations the seeds  for  synthesis and integration ---                                                                   
people find  in each   other's  complementary affirmations                                                               
seeds   of   distrust,    non-conformity,     dis-loyalty,            
judgementalism, condemnation and disintegration.                                                                   
                                                                                                                               
     It is  a wonder that people have not often recognized                                                                    
the  diseases  which  make them be ill-at-ease  with  each                                                                     
other  and  prone to justify themselves in their own eyes.    
We  diseases  are  to  be  found  in  efforts  to  justify                                                                     
ourselves in the eyes of  those whom we do not know, trust                                                            
or respect.                                      
                                                                                                                               
     It  is  a  wonder  that we have  not  recognized  the                                                                     
conflicting  ideals,  values and principles which we  have                                         
internalized  ---  and  which drive us to be eternally  in                      
conflict with each other in blinding self-righteous ways.      
                                                                                                                               
     When  everybody is losing and there are  pathetically                                                                     
few winners  ---  it is a wonder that we the losers cannot                                                                     
figure out how to band together in cooperative efforts  to                                               
be  winners together ---  in ways which will put to  shame      
the traditional pseudo-winners of  the traditional ways of      
striving  to  be better,  saved,  exclusive  ---   as  the                       
"chosen" few.                                                                                                                  
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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