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 %FOCUS AFFIRMATION HEALING RECONCILIATION DIALOGUE+980723                                                                     
   %LOVE AFFECTION LISTEN POSITIVE RECOVERY FORGIVE+980723                                           
  %COOPERATION TOGETHER FELLOWSHIP THANKS GRATITUDE+980723                                                                     
%APPRECIATION GIVING GENEROSITY CRITICISM JUDGEMENT+980723                                                                     
  %CONDEMNATION NEGATIVITY VICTIM COERCION VIOLENCE 980723           
                                                                                                                               
     We  do  well and are well together when  together  we                                                                     
focus upon that which is  positive --- together letting go                                                                     
of that which is negative.  Preoccupations with that which                                                                     
is   negative  engenders  dis-ease,   being   ill-at-ease,                                                             
defensiveness, victims, resentment, anger,   getting-even,                                                                     
revenge, etc.                                                                                                                  
                                                                                                                               
     We do ill and are ill together when together we focus                                                                     
upon that which was negative in the past.    Criticisms of                                                                     
imperfections in  other people's affirmations  --- do  not                                                               
lead us to do well and be well together.                                                                                       
                                                                                                                               
     Being  preoccupied  with  many  mistakes,   blunders,               
imperfections  and injuries ---  blinds us to what is true                        
in each other's affirmations and descriptions.                                                               
                                                                                                                               
     Trying to show/prove that we are better  than  others                                               
makes us all worse,  ill, dis-eased, defensive, alienated,                                        
insecure,   confused,   dysfunctional,   and  repetitively                                                                     
mistaken.                                                                                                                      
                                                                                                                               
     Focusing   upon  that  which  is  negative  in  other                                                               
people's lives ---  does not augment that which is good in                                                                    
our lives together; our relationships.                                                            
                                                                                                                               
     Showing that others are  bad/evil does not prove that                                       
we are good and/or better.  We cannot improve ourselves by                                                            
disproving others'  affirmations.   Double  negatives  are                                                               
usually  downers  ---   which  lead  to  more   negatives,                   
sacrifices, subtractions and losses.                                                                                           
                                                                                                                               
     Responding negatively  to other people's   negativity                                  
--- usually augments negativity.  Responding positively to                                  
other   people's  negativity  ---   opens  the  doors   to                                                               
reconciliation, conflict resolution,  healing and recovery                                              
of:   sight,   hearing,  listening,   understanding,   and                                                    
dialogue.                                                                                                                      
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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