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                         %PEOPLE FALLING LOVE 980522      
                                                                                                                               
     People who fall in love move through deepening levels                                
of being willing to:                                                             
                                                                                                                               
     1.  Be  open  and honest with each other about  their                                                               
interests,  hopes, aspirations, fears, anxieties, etc.                      
                                                                                                                               
     2.  Share  symbols  of willingness to be  more  open,                                                                     
honest, trusting, and intimate.                     
                                                                                                                               
     3.  Be closer, more personal and less defensive.                                                                 
                                                                                                                               
     4.  Be more vulnerable, mutual and balanced with each                            
other.                                                               
                                                                                                                               
     5.  Be  touched by each other's  openness,   honesty,                                                               
interests, memories, hopes, aspirations, fears, anxieties,                      
symbols,  personal integrity,   closeness,  vulnerability,                                                                 
mutuality, and balance.                            
                                                                                                                               
     6.  Exchange  gifts  of security known and enjoyed as                   
the freedom to be  safely  vulnerable in  open and  honest                                                                  
dialogue --- about what matters most to each other.                                                               
                                                                                                                               
     7.  Show  interest in,  concern about and support for                      
each  other people's personal and communal:   integrities,                                                               
balance and security.                                                                                                          
                                                                                                                               
     8.  Respectfully share each other's joys,  pleasures,                                      
pains, concerns, interests,   hopes,  aspirations,  fears,                      
anxieties, etc.                                                                                                                
                                                                                                                               
     9.  Show gracious respect for each others boundaries,                                      
privacy, invitations, and confidential information.                                                                            
                                                                                                                               
     10. Move  prudently and charitably in the  directions                                                                     
of  greater  inclusivity  and  balance  ---   rather  than                                                                     
fearfully  and  alienatively in the direction  of  greater                                        
exclusivity and extremism.                       
                                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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