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   %LETTING GO EXTREMIST PREOCCUPATION MEANS SECURE+980430                                                                     
    %SALVATION KEYS KINGDOM HEAVEN CONTROL SECURITY 980430                                                           
                                                                                                                               
     We  can never rest so long as we clutch at and  cling                                                                     
to  what we regard as the keys to salvation,  security and                                 
the kingdom of heaven.  In our desperation to control such                                                           
keys  we  lose  all  that is  essential  to  personal  and                  
communal integrity.    We try to win by being "better"  in                                                             
alienative  ways;   be  proving  our  superiority  through      
proving other people's inferiority.   We put people "down"                   
in  order  that we may be "up".    To enjoy  true  living,                        
security,  joy and integrity ---  we  need to discover and                 
share the secrets of letting go of wanting/needing:                 
                                                                                                                               
     To be "better" than others.                                                               
                                                                                                                               
     Security through invulnerability.                                
                                                                                                                               
     Control over outcomes of our decisions and actions.                                                           
                                                                                                                               
     To appear to be other than what we really are.                                                               
                                                                                                                               
     Conformity of self to some standard pattern.            
                                                                                                                               
     Ourselves and others to be perfect in some sense.                                                            
                                                                                                                               
     To eliminate all reminders of past imperfections.                                                                         
                                                                                                                               
     To be told things; which are not true and loving.                        
                                                                                                                               
     Others others to take care of all our needs.                 
                                                                                                                               
     To control things and people we do not know.                                                           
                                                                                                                               
     More and more to fill our emptiness and desolation.                                                            
                                                                                                                               
     When  we cannot let go of our burdens we are bound to                                                            
be tired,  grumpy, contentious,  and unable to see what is                
wrong with our life-style.   We are likely to blame others                                                            
for our troubles,  fears and anxieties ---  and fail to do                                                            
what  we  need  to do in order to enjoy  open  and  honest                 
dialogue with many people whom we have learned to fear and               
contend  with.    So long as we refuse to let go  ---   we                
cannot be content  with  each  other  in  healthy personal                
relationships.                                                              
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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