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 %PROJECT EXPORT RESPONSIBILITY DISSONANCE CONFLICT+980329                                  
 %GUILT SHAME CHILD ADOLESCENT SEX PARENT BABY EVIL+980329
 %MORALITY PURITY CODE LEGALISM JUDGEMENT CONDEMNED+980329                                                                     
  %EXCLUSIVE SELF OTHER RIGHTEOUSNESS RELATIONSHIPS 980329       
                                                                                                                               
     Some people  engender within  themselves  dissonance/    
conflict  by  how  they respond  to  circumstances  around                                  
themselves ---  and then they try  to export/project their    
own  dissonance/conflict  to people around  them.     Such                   
people  are  not  dedicated to conflict-resolution  within                             
themselves  regarding  their own inner lives ---   and  so    
export/project their  own  dissonance/conflict outward and                   
engender  many  additional  relationships  of  dissonance,               
conflict and violence.           
                                                                                                                               
     Some  emotionally immature people cannot  comfortably                                                                    
enter  into  kinds of personal relationships  which entail  
high levels of openness, honesty and intimacy.   Observing                     
others'   or  suspecting  others'   involvement  in   such                                                               
relationships   ---  engenders  within  such   emotionally                             
immature people  discomfort,  embarrassment,   dissonance,                                                                    
and/or  conflict  ---  which they then  export/project  in                                              
efforts to reduce their internal supply thereof.  They try                      
to hold others responsible for violating standards of good                                  
behavior; i.e., good in the sense that good behavior would                                                       
not   lead   them  to  experience   internal   discomfort,                      
embarrassment,  dissonance or conflict.   From their point                                              
of view, such standards are ones which stand independently                                                                     
of  them;   that are in their  view  "absolute,"   and  of                                                                     
ultimate importance.                                                                                                           
                                                                                                                               
     When many respected,  influential and powerful people               
are  emotionally  immature as indicated above ---   it  is                                                                     
difficult  for  their  community  to  distinguish  between                                                                
immature  standards  and  other more mature  standards ---                                                               
which  acknowledge in firm ways that murder,  rape,  armed      
robbery,  embezzlement,  domestic violence,  sexual abuse,
sexual  harassment,   lying,   cheating,   dishonesty  and
addictions  ---   do  violence to  personal  and  communal           
integrity.     We  will  do  well  and  be  well  when  we                                                                   
recognize, name, and talk openly  and  honestly  about the                                                                  
consequences  of emotional immaturity which leads to  such                                                                     
behaviors  ---  and seek to raise babies,   infants,   and                                                       
children in ways which  will  minimize occasions  of  such      
emotional immaturity, and the tragic costs thereof.                                                                            
                                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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