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     %DIFFERENT FAMILY SECRETS COLLUSIVE TABOO TALK 980130                                     
                                                                                                                               
     Within  each  family  there  may  be  a  variety   of                             
different  kinds of family secrets which may  differ  from                                     
the  variety of different kinds of  family  secrets  which                                     
exist  within  other  families.    The  particular  family                           
secrets may differ from family to family; yet there may be                                     
similarities  in  the kinds of particular  family  secrets                           
which exist within different families.  Family secrets may                             
be about things that the family:                                                                                               
                                                                                                                               
     1.  Is  with  integrity  proud  of  and  talks  about                                                                   
openly and honesty ---  but only  within the family due to                             
an appropriate level of humility and modesty.                                                                                  
                                                                                                                               
     2.  Feels  guilty  and ashamed about ---   and  never                                                                     
talks about openly and honestly under any circumstances.               
                                                                                                                               
     3.  Has  no   feelings  --- because  the  family  has                          
suppressed  all  feelings --- due a lack of  knowledge and                                                                     
role models in regards to dealing with such secrets.                                 
                                                                                                                               
     4.  Is  constantly in conflict over and embroiled  in                                              
with strong feelings --- which are totally out of control.                                                           
                                                                                                                               
     5.  Is    united   ---    within   the   context   of                
illegal/immoral activities --- wherein the family seeks to                                                                     
take advantage of "outsiders".                                                                                                 
                                                                                                                               
     6.  Is   careful   and   deliberately   hiding   from                                                                     
"outsiders"   as part of a carefully devised plan ---  the                                                                     
details of which are carefully gone over frequently and in                                                                     
overt detail.                                                                                                                  
                                                                                                                               
     7.  Painful  events  far in the past which  have  NOT                                                                     
been  dealt  with  in ways which are mature,   healthy  or      
honest.                                                                  
                                                                                                                               
     The health of a family depends  greatly upon how well                                               
the different members of the family recognize, articulate,                                     
and deal with their different kinds of family secrets.  If                                     
the members of the family lack integrity in how they  deal                                               
with family secrets --- they are likely to disintegrate as                                                                   
persons and as a family.                                                                 
                                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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