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 %ENTRAPMENT PRETENSE ABNORMAL INTOLERABLE LOVE SIN+980125  
   %COLLUSIVE SALVATION GAMES MUTUAL SELF DECEPTION+980125 
  %DOUBLE BOUND BINDINGS TRUTH OPEN HONEST DIALOGUE+980125                                                                  
    %SICKNESS DISEASE ILLUSION DELUSION RESPECTABLE 980125                                      
                                                                                                                               
     If we are willing to play collusive games of pretense                                                   
we   are  bound  to  become  bound  in  double  binds   of                                                                     
entrapment.    When playing such games it is "normal"   to                                                                     
pretend that what is truly normal is "abnormal", and it is                                                                     
"normal"   to  pretend  that what  is  truly  abnormal  is                                                                     
"normal".     Thus it is rarely clear which is which.    A                                                                     
powerful  person  who  has  appointed  self  to  serve  as                                             
policemen,   detective,   prosecutor,   judge,   jury  and                                                                     
executioner  --- is  bound to play fast and loose with the                                                                     
truth and with conceptions of normality.  No one is secure                               
in such a situation.   It is not safe to be vulnerable  in                                                                     
open and honest intimate dialogue.    It is not safe to be                     
intimate and it is not safe to be alienated.                     
                                                                                                                               
     When   we  pretend  that  what  is  truly  normal  is                                                                     
"abnormal"  we are sick,  dis-eased,  ill, illusionary, or                                                                     
delusionary  ---   in  the context of collusive  games  of                
mutual self deception. 
                                                                                                                               
     When  we  pretend  that  what  is  truly  abnormal is                                                                     
"normal"  we are sick,  dis-eased,   ill,  illusionary, or                                                                     
delusionary  ---   in  the context of collusive  games  of                
mutual self deception. 
                                                                                                                               
     When we are entrapped in trying to figure out when to                                                                     
pretend that we  are "abnormally"  normal ---  and when to                                                                     
pretend that we are "normally" abnormal we are sick,  dis-                                                                     
eased, ill, illusionary, delusionary --- in the context of                
collusive games of mutual self deception. 
                                                                                                                               
     Under  such circumstances we are unlikely to know the                                                    
difference  between being normally normal  and  abnormally                                     
abnormal.    Learning from our mistakes is impossible  and                                                            
teaching  each other helpful truths is unthinkable.   Then                                                               
only a terrible miracle can save us ---  and that would be                                                                     
intolerable.  
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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