This is http://www.essayz.com/a9712071.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONTROL LOVE GOD LIBERATION HEALING DIALOGUE SEX+971207 %SECURITY DEFENSE REBELLION DISINTEGRATE EVIL FAIL+971207 %DISEASE HEALTH INTERDEPENDENT PERSONAL RELATIONS+971207 %ISSUES CONTROL CONDEMN COMMEND COMMAND LAW LEGAL+971207 %PRESCRIPTION PROSCRIBE SCRIPTURE WRITTEN CODES+971207 %HEART JUSTICE MERCY HUMILITY PRESENCE AFFECTION+971207 %COMMUNICATION RIGHTS INHIBIT REPRESS TALK ISOLATE 971207 Some compulsive people seek to achieve security through the control of love. Their efforts are futile because God is Love. Efforts to control love ultimately are frustrated by God who is Love. What are the characteristics of integrative rebellion against the efforts of some compulsive people to achieve security through the control of Love? How are we to discern the difference between such integrative rebellion --- on the one hand --- and disintegrative rebellion on the part of disintegrative individualists who are incapable and/or unwilling to be involved in healthy inter-dependent integrative personal relationships? People who are preoccupied with issues of control seek security through the control of love. They are so insecure that they cannot conceive of the possibility of enjoying true security known as the freedom to be safely vulnerable within the context of the open and honest dialogue of a truly intimate relationships. They seek to dictate the terms of their personal relationships; i.e., to be in control of their personal relationships. They cannot permit other people to be free to be themselves in their own personal relationships; for demonstrations of such integrative freedom threatens insecure people's conception of what kind of security they yearn form. Demonstrations of true security within healthy personal relationships are integrative rebellious actions --- for such demonstrations communicate the possibility of healthy independence from the controls of insecure people who are threatened by Love. People who are threatened by Love --- are people who perceive God as an angry disciplinarian making heavy demands upon rebellious people --- commanding them to obey laws which prohibit forbidden actions, thoughts, desires, feelings, visions, fantasies, etc. They see the world and human relationships through their filters of either/or thinking, feeling, prohibitions, prescriptions, commandments, laws and threats. Either obey or - - - - - be punished, rejected, dis-fellowshipped, dis-inherited, dis-honored, dis-integrated, excommunicated, banished, etc. Such people seek to do God's "Or-Work" - - - to supply the appropriate threats and punishments for people who are rebellious, disobedient and disorderly lovers. Love is a terrifying threat to legalists who see it as their sacred duty to: Offer condemnations, rather than commendations; Control, rather than liberate; Engender dis-ease, rather than to promote healing; Contend, rather than to resolve conflicts. God is Love. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================