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%HELPFUL RECOGNIZE DESCRIPTION TALK ABOUT RIGHTEOUS+971122
%SELF OTHER STANDARDS BETTER IMMORAL CONFORMITY SIN+971122
%LESSER PEOPLE COMMUNITIES SALVATION CLASSIFICATION 971122
                                                                                                                                     
           It is helpful to recognize how and why people who are                                               
      preoccupied with conformal grounds for  righteousness  are       
      contentious, alienative, and disintegrative.                
                                                                                                                                     
           1.  They seek to consider themselves as righteous; as    
      different  from  others who are lesser persons  than  they                                     
      are.     They   devise   and  focus  upon   criteria   for                                                                     
      differentiation  between persons ---  criteria which  puts                                     
      them  in  a good spot-light,  and other persons  into  the  
      outer darkness.    To maximize the differentiation,   they                                     
      constantly  perfect  the criteria for  passing  judgement,                                                                     
      and  for the justification of the condemnations of  lesser                                                                     
      persons.                                                                 
                                                                                                                                     
           2.  Righteousness is defined in conformal terms,  not       
      in  terms of participating justly in  right-relationships;       
      for they are good at manipulating standards for conformity            
      and judgements,  but fearful  of  entering  into  open and  
      honest  relationships in which they would  be  vulnerable.                                                              
      They  are  insecure  in the absence  of  familiarity  with                                                                     
      lovers who are motivated  by Love.   They reject  gifts of                                           
      true   security  enjoyed  as  the  freedom  to  be  safely                        
      vulnerable in open and honest dialogue within the presence                             
      of Love.                                           
                                                                                                                                     
           3.  Perfection  is  striven  for  in  terms  of   the                                                                     
      elimination  of:   flaws,   blemishes,    variations  from                                                                     
      ideals, doubts, uncertainties, and irregularities.    Such                                         
      striving    entails     much    alienative     discipline,                                        
      coercion,      and  judgementalism.    In the  absence  of                                                                     
      success ---  excommunication is regarded as an appropriate                                 
      tool;      excommunication   from  positions   of   power,                                             
      influence, and fellowship.                                                                                                     
                                                                                                                                     
           4.  Because  differentiation  from  others  who   are                          
      lesser  people is important ---  it cannot be important to                                                                    
      seek    mutuality    and    balance    in   relationships.                            
      Interest  in mutuality  and balance will stand in the  way      
      of   effective differentiation  between  the  good  people                                     
      and  the evil people.                                       
                                                                                                                                     
           5.  It  is  likely  to be difficult  to  find  common                                                                     
      ground  with contentious people,  because they  have  been                
      careful to avoid making any commitment to ideals,  values,               
      principles,    or   scriptures  which  call  for   careful                                                                     
      consideration    of:  mutuality,    balance,    listening,                            
      gentleness,   personal   integrity,   communal  integrity,                                                                
      tolerance,   children,   women,  and the  poor  ---   when                                                                     
      reviewing  their own patterns of attitudes,   assumptions,                   
      commitments, thoughts and behaviors.    In  their own view                   
      they  are  surely  unassailable.   They avoid having their                                                                     
      confidence shaken by  avoiding the possibility of open and                                                                     
      honest  dialogue  with  people who might  challenge  their                                                                  
      view.                                                                                                                          
                                                                                                                                     
           It  is helpful to recognize,  describe and talk about                                                                     
      the  behaviors  of people who are prone to behave  in  the                                                       
      above   ways;     and to seek to truly  understand   their      
      thoughts, attitudes, motivations and fears.                                                                                    
                                                                                                                                     
                               (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
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