This is http://www.essayz.com/a9710122.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %ROOM FOR LOVE CREATIVITY UNIQUE DIGRESSION FREEDOM 971012 People who have grown up in the absence of true and gentle love are often people who feel abandoned, threatened, insecure, hopeless --- and so are defensive and working as workaholics at achieving security, salvation and righteousness. They want certainty, predictability and control --- and cannot tolerate uncertainty, doubt, chaos, spontaneity, digression or creativity. They gravitate towards "either/or" attitudes, emotions, assumptions, perceptions, thinking, commands, prescriptions, proscriptions and taking of stands. They leave little room for Love to work creatively in intimate personal relationships. Their boundaries between right and wrong are too sharp to leave any playing field on which people can be true to themselves and each other within intimate personal relationships. Everything is either prescribed or proscribed. What you are not commanded to do, you must not do. Only what is commanded is permitted. If there is any doubt it is forbidden ---for doubt is not to be tolerated. Truly creative living is not determined by any set of prescriptions or proscriptions. Truly creative living is expressive of the potentialities of unique individuals who relate to each other in ways which facilitate and promote both personal and communal integrity. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================