This is http://www.essayz.com/a9710111.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONTROL OWN SALVATION PARADOXICAL TRUTHS COLLUSION+971011 %ACCEPT REJECT RECONCILIATION EXCOMMUNICATION EVILS+971011 %LETTING GO CHERISHED ASSUMPTIONS ATTITUDES BELIEFS 971011 People who truly enjoy salvation --- live lives within which they accept and live with paradoxical truths as natural parts of living full and balanced lives. We have not, do not, and cannot control our own salvation --- or the salvations of others. We are misguided when we try to control our own salvation or the salvations of others --- and when we assume, believe, or think that we have done so. It is difficult for many people to let go of their cherished assumptions, beliefs and convictions about how they play determinative roles in their own salvation --- for they are stuck in the absence of authentic experiences of being accepted when they have sought to be true to themselves and to each other. They have been judged, condemned, rejected, isolated and excommunicated by insecure people like themselves --- who have been stuck in the absence of authentic experiences of being accepted when they have sought to be true to themselves and to each other. Such people cannot pull themselves up by their own boot straps --- to lift themselves out of the holes made by their disintegrative assumptions, beliefs and convictions regarding their own roles in their own salvation/damnation. They cannot relax in each other's presence --- and cannot accept each other's presence. They are contentious in their efforts to escape from what they cannot let go of --- because what they cannot let go of seems essential to their own salvation from all that seems to threaten them. Often we play collusive games of mutual self- deception regarding what is essential to our own salvation. We become tied in knots which we have tied (from the outside in) to protect ourselves from each threatening other person whom we conceive to be threateningly-real in our fearful presence. We cannot describe our own experiences to ourselves or each other -- -because to do so would violate the rules of our collusive games of mutual self-deception "which we are not playing." (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================