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   %PRESCRIBED PROSCRIBED EMOTIONAL RITUALS REPRESS+970101
%BONDS PRISON LIBERATION EXPRESSION HONEST DIALOGUE+970101
%REBELLION COMMUNAL PERSONAL INTEGRITY CONFLICT LAW 970101

     In  a  community  in which  there  are  prescriptions
regarding  proper and improper emotional expressions it is
not prudent/possible to be open and honest about  personal
emotions.  Emotional honesty would undermine the collusive
games  of  mutual self deception which  hold  the  society
"together."   The social "order" would break down!

     Often   social  prescriptions  tell  members   of   a
community  when  and how it is "proper"  to  permit  their
emotions  to  be  expressed.   On other  occasions  it  is
"improper" to permit emotions to be expressed.

     When emotions are traditionally bound up and not free
to express themselves,  there are bound to be tensions and
contentions  which  hide just below the surface  of  daily
expressions.   Under those circumstances it is bound to be
difficult  to properly regulate the expression of emotions
in  proper  ritualistic  ways.    There are  bound  to  be
rebellious  tendencies within the context  of  ritualistic
expressions which are in keeping with the prescriptions of
emotional expressions.   Such emotional "expressions"  are
bound   to  be  meaningless,   insignificant,    and   not
satisfactory.   People who are bound up in such  emotional
"expressions"  are bound to learn that expressing emotions
does  not merit respect---and so eventually contribute  to
the pattern of prescriptions and proscriptions which  will
continue to make emotional expressions unworthy of respect
or support.

     Whenever  any  condition  operates  to  augment   the
condition    itself    there   is   bound   to    be    an
exponential/geometric growth of the condition.    Thus the
communal  condition  which inhibits the  open  and  honest
expression  of  emotions  is bound to  lead  to  dishonest
expressions  of  emotions  which do not merit  respect  or
support---and  so to disrespect for emotional  expressions
and further inhibitions of open and honest expressions  of
emotions.

     For  the above reasons it is important for people  of
integrity  to help communities to work towards  liberating
members  of  the community to be free to be vulnerable  in
open  and honest intimate relationships---and  to  express
emotions  in  ways  which  will inform  the  community  of
conflicts which need to be resolved in win-win ways  which
will relieve tensions, contentions and bonds which inhibit
creative problem solving.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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